Loving someone who couldn't care less if you exist

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Is it normal to be madly in love with someone who couldn't care less if you exist?

I am 25 years old, I have been on and off with my boyfriend a few weeks shy of a year. I have dated my fair share of guys who are douchebags and meatheads all the same, and he was much different, shy, mysterious, he has a lot of walls and unfortunately some issues I can't quite diagnose...anyways, he acts like he doesn't care, has left me 2ce for other women (that not to be conceited but were not as pretty as me and were absolute whores) and it breaks my heart when he does this, because I love him with absolutely everything I am, and he tells me I shouldn't and I'm too good for him and I should move on. Almost like he wants me to leave him, but I always forgive him. Even after he let me believe for 2 months he never even cared about me, because he didn't feel like being in a relationship so told me he never liked me to make me leave him.

My bad judgement aside, my question is..How can I be so madly in love with a man that I can take his cheating, his extreme emotional abuse, everything he does to me, and he literally feels nothing? He won't tell me how he feels unless I directly ask him, and then im the psycho nutcase who is "insecure" and has to ask if you still like me...cuz I never know

Someone tell me they understand, and have had a similar experience. I know I am going to hear, break up with him he's a loser...if I didn't love him, I would in a second, but it's so hard!

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  • pambambam
    11 years ago | pl

    ignore him, leave him, he'll probadly will be looking for you.

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  • revelry
    13 years ago | pl

    i was in the same situation for years. he was my first love and he treated me like shit. talked behind my back, left me in the cold and totally excommunicated me for months.. not once but twice. for NO reason what so ever. just because he was fucked in the head. anyways, people feel the same way that you are. the best thing to do is find someone who respects you and ACTUALLY cares about you. he obviously doesn't.. if he's left you for other women. it'll hurt like hell for a while, but it's better for you in the long run.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    i wouldnt call him a loser, its just that he doesnt love you anymore... trust me and also "Your too good for me" is guy speak for i dont want to be with you anymore(sry i know that sounds mean, im trying not to be mean) ...try to forget bout him... best advice rly.

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    • CottonCandy30
      13 years ago | pl

      he says that but like he's seriously bipolar or something, if i am like i'm done, he gets soooo upset and like freaks out, and goes all mental. He says things like "you're too good for me" because my ex's are like meatheads that care only about their looks, and i think he's intimidated thinks he's not as good as them...but i love him, i didn't love those guys..but he punishes me for having a past..

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  • mr.fuba
    13 years ago | pl

    actually that above link is not spam, it's my reply, was a bit long (:D)

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