Love of my life....

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hello folks...I saw that most of the members are active in this site...hope you guys can give me some advice...

I met a girl like 2 years ago...and we were very close since then. we used to chat a lot...talk over the phone for hours...miss each other so much..she said that I was the best person to happen in her life...we had feelings for each other and I know that..we both take care of each other so much...so i just went ahead and told her my feelings...she said she likes me and that's it..she said she cant be with me due to some reasons.I felt so lost....it has been 6 months now and there hasn't been a day that i dint cry at my fate. No matter what i am doing i always think about her. She takes care of me so much that she feels bad when I am down and says that she cant see me like that. She says i need to move on. I feel even worse when she asks me to move on. someday suddenly an old friend of her met her and they started talking to each other.She said she likes him and his family and have no problem with him.I was so helpless...I don't know what to do. She isn't talking or calling me as much she used to do initially. I am in the most important phase of my life applying for jobs and studying...and i don't find any interest in doing anything..She is even helping me finding jobs. She wants to see me in a good position in life without her. all i in my life is her love and how can I be happy without her..its so sickening..I cant avoid her for she is a true sweetheart...she says everyone person has a different importance in her life...even now she cares for me....please help me overcome this problem of mine...I know I cannot have her in my life...

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  • fartonmyface
    10 years ago | pl

    I don't think she is as sweet as you think. She's probably only keeping you as a friend for her own peace of mind so that she doesn't feel guilty for throwing you away for someone else. What she's doing to you is actually worse than if she were to just straight up tell you that she doesn't want you in her life anymore, because it leaves you floating around in this middle ground trying to make an understanding of her feelings towards you.

    If I were you, I'd cut all strings with her. Just stop talking to her. Use her rejection as motivation to prove that you are a man and that you can move on.

    Good luck.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    Unrequited love is difficult. She is being a decent enough person & friend to you. But you are taking this way too far.

    Could it be that the mess and drama you are making of this disappointment is a way you feel you can keep her in your life?

    If so stop it. She will tire of it and come to see you as - well - lacking a backbone. Respect her feelings, and her friendship. Be honest about the disappointment but do something about it by making other matters a priority.

    Move on. But move on with dignity for god's sake - she's not the only fish in the sea.

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  • rebekah912
    13 years ago | pl

    i agree with ^^^^ dat persun. lol. she's being a great friend. there's one person destined for u, and u'll find them!!

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  • Isolated
    13 years ago | pl

    Don't you think she cares about you to the point of helping you move on? Even though she believes you're not the one she would take to the next level, she is being a friend. She might not be your Juliet but you are someone's Romeo. Someday you will find someone who means a lot to you like she did.

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