Love for a best friend

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Ok so I am an 18 year old guy and I have just Graduated High School and I have a certain Best Friend. She Has Been my Best Friend for Years and I mean my whole life. We are really close best friends that we tell each other anything for example, Secrets, Sex Stories about each other and problems. She is my first best friend and my only best friend. She is extremely beautiful and popular. Unlike me, I am really Unpopular but I am friends with alot of people. Anyway, I love her so much and she has been my best friend for so long that I am actually IN LOVE with her now. I don't know what to do because she only loves me as a best friend. The weird thing is that I havent told her the way I felt about her since we graduated and I am afraid to tell her because I think it is going to destroy our friendship. I want to spend the rest of my life with her and I want to have great children with her. Does anyone have any advice? Is it normal to fall IN LOVE with your best friend?

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  • tallisse
    13 years ago

    Hey,
    I just wanted to say...I think it's really normal and in fact expected. I think most boy-girl friendships are friendships (as opposed to relationships) because one person doesn't feel the same. So, that person in love keeps hanging on...and viola, friendship. Listen, I think you should tell her how you feel, but not in a pressured or aggressive way...just in a passive, soft really laid-back, easy-going way...BUT ONLY if you're prepared to lose her. Some people get weird after those I love you talks... So, if you abolutely HAVE to tell her, then tell her. Otherwise, I would hint at it (softly) and look for clues only.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Okay, I have a boyfriend that I really love...and then I have a bestfriend (that is a boy) that I have recently fell in love with...I think it is completly normal...

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    • Destiny***
      13 years ago

      This happened to me, :L Its pretty hard to fight your feelings and yeah its Normal..

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  • ima-bee
    13 years ago

    My boyfriend and I were best friends for years... we both liked each other for ages, & are FINALLY together, have been for a year & I couldnt be happier..If its meant to happen, it will. Just gotta be clear about how you feel :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Its TOTALLY normal. I mean you're best friend is like.. you have everything in common with them. You can laugh at certain little things together, it makes sense that you could see yourself with that person for the rest of your life because they make you happy. Honestly, I think you should tell her. You never know, maybe she does feel the same way about you.

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  • andrian007
    13 years ago

    First of all, you need to calm down. You're only 18, I really don't need to hear your plans on having children. You're not even old enough to know what that means.

    In the meantime, if you feel that strongly about her, then you should talk to her about it. But you have to understand the risk if she chooses to reject you. The friendship will be over. You might also want to know that one of the oldest rules in the dating book is that once a girl sees you as a friend, it is very unlikely she will ever see you as anything more. It seems more of a guy thing to fall in love after being friends for a long time. Girls don't really do that.

    All the best though and tell us how it goes!

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    You are close enough to her to know how she feels about you. So if you push her to romance & she doesn't feel that way, I think you will lose her as a friend. But if you feel you can talk with her about these feelings without expecting or pressuring her to feel the same way - that it is a problem you have, then, well maybe... your call.

    Unrequited love is a terrible thing. I hope you can find support one way or another to get past it.

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