Thats good and all, but sometimes it good to get it out of the way. No more pressure. News flash, 90% of people's first sexual experiance are akaward and not what they expected.
I dont way sleep around, but there is no need to set limits on it either. Just do what feels "right" to you and your morals
There shouldn't be any pressure. It's due to the over glorifying of sex in our society that causes people to think that they MUST lose their virginity at all costs without thinking they need a good person they love to do so. Sex shouldn't be awkward; even for first-timers. If you love someone, you should be fully willing and eager to lose virginity together.
And there has to be some limits. Otherwise, people will continue losing their virginity to creeps and nobodies. Only have sex with the one you truly love, then you'll never regret it.
Many times, it's a much better alternative to stay a virgin for your entire lifetime then lose it to someone you know won't stay with you until 'death do you both apart'.
Don't misunderstand me, i'm not saying you shouldnt wait to lose your V card to someone that you love (at the time) but just the act of sex in general is awkward the first times. It's not like how the movie show it.
But I also think it's stupid to wait until marriage. Because in the long run that could be a dealbreaker
Which it should just be when you feel comfortable, we agree on that
I guess so, but then each to their own. Some people have the ability to detach themselves emotionally.
I also think its a mistake to assume that you will be forever attached to the person you first have sex with because it's about trust and respect, not commitment or love..unless you want it to be of course, but those things aren't exactly necessary to have a good first experience.
You should never have sex with someone if it's not out of love and committment. That's one reason why relationships fall apart. Unless you can truly commit, there shouldn't be sex or children (in most cases, both).
Different things work for different people. I think you'd find that there are plenty of people who have sex outside of committed relationships and it works perfectly fine.
If their relationship falls apart its because they made the wrong decisions for the wrong reasons.
either that or they're an idiot who can't accept or understand their partners reason for doing things.
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I mean really. What's a sex life worth if you're just gonna lose your virginity to a asshole or someone you can't truly commit to?
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Thats good and all, but sometimes it good to get it out of the way. No more pressure. News flash, 90% of people's first sexual experiance are akaward and not what they expected.
I dont way sleep around, but there is no need to set limits on it either. Just do what feels "right" to you and your morals
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There shouldn't be any pressure. It's due to the over glorifying of sex in our society that causes people to think that they MUST lose their virginity at all costs without thinking they need a good person they love to do so. Sex shouldn't be awkward; even for first-timers. If you love someone, you should be fully willing and eager to lose virginity together.
And there has to be some limits. Otherwise, people will continue losing their virginity to creeps and nobodies. Only have sex with the one you truly love, then you'll never regret it.
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Don't misunderstand me, i'm not saying you shouldnt wait to lose your V card to someone that you love (at the time) but just the act of sex in general is awkward the first times. It's not like how the movie show it.
But I also think it's stupid to wait until marriage. Because in the long run that could be a dealbreaker
Which it should just be when you feel comfortable, we agree on that
I guess so, but then each to their own. Some people have the ability to detach themselves emotionally.
I also think its a mistake to assume that you will be forever attached to the person you first have sex with because it's about trust and respect, not commitment or love..unless you want it to be of course, but those things aren't exactly necessary to have a good first experience.
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You should never have sex with someone if it's not out of love and committment. That's one reason why relationships fall apart. Unless you can truly commit, there shouldn't be sex or children (in most cases, both).
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Different things work for different people. I think you'd find that there are plenty of people who have sex outside of committed relationships and it works perfectly fine.
If their relationship falls apart its because they made the wrong decisions for the wrong reasons.
either that or they're an idiot who can't accept or understand their partners reason for doing things.