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Ive tried living with roomates but no mater how I try to cope it always ends up being really uncomfortable for me especially the privacy aspect of it
No such thing as a perfect room mate.
I have one, but we live in a two bedroom house and have plenty of privacy in our rooms. I do not own the house but am the primary "renter". Long story but anyways.
What one needs to do is figure out what you can or cannot live with. My number one rule is this - I told her she is not to bring her own room mates to live. That one is not negotiable.
Other simpler ones are things like clean up after yourself and contribute to the groceries and bills.
We live very similar lifestyles so things like loud parties or fights are not a problem (we do not party).
Adults living together will sometimes butt heads but the question is - are they merely minor disagreements or is this person screwing up your life?
Yeah but is he (or she?) one of those hardcore bible thumpers?
Some who identify as christian have their faith but don't try cramming it down others' throats.
EDIT - ok so I read the other post after writing this.
IN my case it is probably different because I am over 40 and she is under 30. By the time you get to be over 40, people just don't mess with you. Tsss... one of the few benefits of aging.
I’ve been living with my two roommates for about 3 years now. All I can say is that you don’t really know a person until you live with them. The first year was fucking hell, but it became better as I got used to it. I think most people would rather live alone.
Fuck that I wouldn't do it. When I had my first house I would sometimes get people staying for a few weeks and I hated it.
I don't mind it (maybe it has to do with being gay, no I don't look at them willing to fuk them nor flirt but I like it.
I have the same problem. As much as I wanted to make the room a sacred space for me, I found myself giving up. Later on, I figured that there are certain things that we cannot change, one of that is a fixation (Sigmund Freud's Psychosexual Theory of Development). I basically understood my roommates as individuals with Anal-expulsive personality or simply, messy and careless. Although this is a negative personality one could have, it is better to understand its root cause: (you may not believe this) but, according to Freud, it is toilet-training in their formative years. So I just tend to understand them and as much as possible, ignore the things that they are doing.
Yes! A topic for a college kid!!
I have lived with a roommate my first two years of college and its been rough. We WERE good friends coming in but now theres tension. Hes a Christian and found out I was having premarital sex and was pissed as fuck. I talked my way out of him leaving and stopping leaving out condomns so I think were good now. Next year might be rough considering the amount of sex toys and shit that I plan to bring with me. If he finds my butt plug, rope and ball gag, I will MOST CERTAINLY be rooming with someone else the next day lol.
If I wasn't married then I would absolutely live alone for the rest of my life (apart from some lovely pets, of course).
I put up with roomates when I was younger and I feel I've done my time. Never again.
I had a couple of roommates in college, and it wasn't for me. Eventually I got kicked out of the dorms, and got my own small one bedroom apartment.
I have recently lived with my parents, and I don't care for it. I haven't lived under the same roof as my sister since 2002, and I hope I never have to again. I'd rather live in a small space by myself than live in a mansion with other people for the most part. I tend to keep odd hours, and I have no desire whatsoever to hear the noise that other people make, nor do I have the desire curb the noise I make for the sake of another person's so called peace, and quiet. I'm also really into aromatherapy, and I don't give a flying fuck about whether, or not another person is sensitive to it, or not!
If I won the lottery tomorrow the first thing I would do would be to go away to a lovely spa somewhere where I could totally relax, get pampered like ya'll know I want to, and start laying out my future plans. I'd love to live in a big mansion, but I could do so alone with just my pets, and a couple of personal assistants/help. The older I get the more I am set in my ways, and the less I want to compromise for others.
I think it's completely normal to not enjoy having roommates, but I'm quite mad you know.
The closest thing to roommates that I enjoyed were my awesome gay, male friends that I had back in college.
I have always maintained that the structure we live in is not as important as the people living around. I feel like you do - I would prefer even a small space in peace than a mansion with a bunch of pricks living there. Ort, if the neighbors were garbage, that would ruin any home.
About the aroma therapy - I have concluded thst most people have a favorite sense to entertain. Some like to look at things like movies, photos... Some are entertained by food, some like music (me for sure)
I guess you main entertainment is enjoyable smells than?
Just an observation.