Lied about meeting her ex

So I'll start off by saying I definitely have a hard time trusting my partners at first. As we all have I've had my trust broken many times.

My current girlfriend seemed to be the absolute best encounter I've had yet. We got to know each other as friends for a good amount of time before ever going on a date. Have lots in common, similar goals, etc. When we first met she was in a relationship. We work in the same building pretty closely, so we saw a lot of each other. I found out her relationship wasn't going so well after only 6 months. Eventually they broke it off, only a few weeks later I caved and asked her out.

Fast forward 2 weeks. We are out playing pool at our usual spot. I notice a group of gents walking in and the guy in front makes eye contact first with me then glances at her. Some time later he walks to our table and says hello. I was taking my turn so they said something to each other. When my turn was over, she says "That's one of my exes friends. I'm just gonna run for a smoke with them". She wasn't gone long, probably a little longer than a smoke takes but less than 10 minutes.

We finished our game when she came back. She said she wanted to leave cause her exes friends were here. I found that a little odd, but I agreed none the less. I felt something was up so I asked her what was bothering her. She replied nothing, but I knew that wasn't the case. Eventually I just flat out said. I don't wan't to accuse you of lying. However I really think that was your ex and not one of his friends. She came clean at this point, apologizing and trying to explain why she would make a small lie like this. She basically said she didn't want to throw me into that situation so early on, and had never been in that situation herself so she panicked. He just wanted to get some extra closure from her, "Is this your new boyfriend? He makes you happy? etc."

Essentially I believe her intentions were pure. I really want to anyways. Some time has passed since then, but sometimes I still find it difficult to shake this little lie that happened so early on. It might be worth noting that I "know" of her history with guys and it isn't like most people that are not to be trusted. She takes her time, Isn't shallow, strong morals, etc.

Please tell me what you think?

It's probably nothing 1
Trust issues have the best of you again. 2
Might be worth thinking about 2
She's being honest. 3
It's definitely nothing 0
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  • Justmehere

    Tough one. Trust is a huge thing, no matter how long you've been with the person or how good you are together. I always say, go with your gut feeling; It's usually correct. If you think something is or was up between them..Chances are, there was.

    I was dating a great, beautiful woman (best green eyes I've ever seen), we got along incredibly well, hit it off from the first night. I knew I had something special with her. However, she was also a lifetime local, who's friends were mostly from her high school days, and, primarily male. I knew one guy from the bar I went to, and was no fan of his to begin with, before I met her. He pulled the "I know her" crap on me, and I thought nothing of it. Then I see online that she had a "dinner date" with someone else. Not him, but another guy.

    She tried passing it off as "one dinner", then adding "at his house". Yeah, my gut told me..She's got something going on, for sure. What got me was, any..Any female I dealt with, work/business-wise, she'd be jealous of and ask me a million questions. I confronted her with such fact, that I get questioned about every female within a 10 mile radius, but am supposed to just take her dinner date...At a guy's house..As just a dinner?

    That was the beginning of the end, one long, heated argument, and my flat-out telling her..I don't trust you one bit, was married to someone who never told the truth, and wasn't going through it again. She blocked me on social media, but I did a fake name to snoop on her. The rest of the thread about the dinner date confirmed my thoughts; She commented it went "very well", and how "it finally happened".. I made the right move ditching her.

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  • RoseIsabella

    People are so awkward and uptight. I basically tell my man everything.

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    • My wife always tells me the rest of the story about 6 months later. She says its so I won't get mad. Waiting six months makes me mad!

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      • RoseIsabella

        I have very poor impulse control, and a healthy dose of Catholic guilt so I just spill the beans like diarrhea of the mouth. Neither of us really hold back anything at least as far as I know. Well, I hope he isn't holding anything back. In a lot of ways he seems to actually have a bigger mouth than me, which actually gives me a chance to sit back and relax when we're in social situations.

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        • The_Loitering_Creep

          I admire your poor impulse control. It seems eternally refreshing. My impulse control is a bit better, and that is good because otherwise I would burn down all the parochial schools that haunted my childhood.

          Also glad your long tall Texan is a big mouth. Big mouth people are interesting. Too bad I can't meet him and his friends for drinks. An occasional but sparing creepy comment might enliven the conversation.

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          • RoseIsabella

            I just wish he wouldn't watch so many conspiracy videos on YouTube with the smart tv. Those things give me the heebie jeebies.

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            • The_Loitering_Creep

              Occam's Razor says that that explanation that is simplest is best. Albert Einstein refined the idea. He said things should be made as simple as possible but not simpler. I say that this is the problem with conspiracy theories. They are too simple. Einstein nailed it.

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  • rayb12

    Well you'll see if you trust her again.

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