Ladies, how do you handle sexual expression in public ish settings

So long story short, I've realized I get excited super easy. Like, backing into someone is enough to get things started. It's a problem and I'm trying to work on it.

So now I try to be really careful not to walk into people, but I'm afraid I may be overcompensating which may still cause a social issue. Like if someone is walking behind me and i see them coming from my peripheral, I'll like try to be still and keep as far away as i can. Or if I'm about to bump into someone I'll move myself out of the way.

Some times when this happens I'll move my body from my waist first since that's like the main problem area. But I'm thinking that maybe it's sending some signal I don't mean to.

So like does anyone have any advice or stories or something? Tips on controlling these seemingly involuntary urges? I just want to not be seen as some perverted fiend.

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  • Maybe if you get a girlfriend you'll be less horny.

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    • I was thinking this was a girl mate. It says in the title.

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      • Nah he is just asking ladies so he can whack off to their stories. Besides, it seems more difficult for men to hide their "sexual expression" (boners)

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        • That is quite possible. It did seem weird for a girl to post this becuaee it isn't like people can tell when your horny. Unintentional boners are annoying ASF!

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        • I am a girl. By hiding sexual expression, I mean when I back into someone, usually an attractive Male, my body will move before I can think and I've done things like rub guy's legs and push into them harder.

          I'm trying to get advice from other girls on how to control these things.

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  • Alright, I'm not a troll. I am trans and homeless. I haven't been able to do internal play in a very long time. When i get in these moments, my heart starts racing and it's hard to control myself. I've made some progress on my own, but i was hoping someone would say something that might help. I'm asking women for help because women would understand better what I'm going through than men. Like seriously, the troll comments have been made, can I get some actual help now please

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    • I'm not saying you're a troll it's just not really a "woman" thing, it's more of a "you" thing (not to be rude).

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  • Maybe you should work on your general coordination. I can't remember the last time I was in public and unintentionally crashed into someone else.

    As for the messages you might be giving off, I think that most people would probably assume that you have serious personal-space issues and you're a little high-strung, since it sounds like you're very twitchy and jumping around all over the place in your efforts to keep well clear of others.

    But, yeah, no. It's all pretty implausible, and you sound like a sad little troll-boy with fantasies of unknown women bumping into him and groping him. Good luck with that, kiddo.

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    • It's usually at work where I'm moving around and distracted by doing the job. I get lost in the moment and feel myself press against a man and it's like a shock and drives me insane. I'm trying to be more aware, but like whenever anyone walks by I do my best to not bump into them. But I'm thinking that maybe doing that is still an indicator for like something sexual.

      I was kinda hoping for some advice on like restricting these like impulses so thati can just work without worrying about doing something reckless in the heat of the moment

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      • Ummmmm, here's the deal. You are in denial of your own sexual frustration. If you had an orgasm every day or two, this problem of being caught up in the moment would go away. Now I'm a guy, so you are going to have to change my advice to the female point of view.

        1. Get a hot, steamy romance novel.
        2. Imagine that you are the woman in the story that gets her man.
        3. After reading for an hour, fill the bathtub with warm water and bubble soap.
        4. Light a few candles, and get in.
        5. Masturbate.
        6. Relax and enjoy the afterglow.
        7. This step is up to you. Call out for pizza if you can't think of anything better to do.

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        • If I had a home to bathe in and play with myself, I wouldn't have this issue. You're right about sexual frustration, but since I can't really do anything with it I want to learn to control the urges.

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          • Gee, I'm sorry. Maybe you could do step 1, followed by step 7, all the while thinking about step 2.

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  • So are you asking like about public sex or the desire to have sex with strangers?

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