Best way to avoid "kink shaming" would be to keep your kinks to yourself and significant others. If its your significant other that is shaming your kink then you you should look for a new significant other.
That is what a lot of people are saying. Please understand that I don't just walk up to people and talk about it, or bring it up in conversation like it ain't no thang. Word kinda got out about me once because I asked a girl I felt close with about it hoping to het laid, and she flipped out. Among her friend group I'm the 'kinky' guy and they act like that is a bad thing. Also, I have to go to extra work to make sure nobody finds out details, because I know they will judge me if they catch wind of some kinky shit going on.
Sounds like you might have tried to move a little quickly there. You have to ease into it. Typically you gotta get past the more normal sexual activities before you take someone directly into your kink dungeon. Getting kinky with someone else involves a level of comfort, you clearly had not achieved that level of comfort yet.
In retrospect, it probably was a little to far, but I don't have one special 'significant' other. I rely primarily on friends with benefits and online hookup dating. Commited relationships are not really a thing with me, which makes it more difficult. But that is still a sitaution a lot of people are in.
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Best way to avoid "kink shaming" would be to keep your kinks to yourself and significant others. If its your significant other that is shaming your kink then you you should look for a new significant other.
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That is what a lot of people are saying. Please understand that I don't just walk up to people and talk about it, or bring it up in conversation like it ain't no thang. Word kinda got out about me once because I asked a girl I felt close with about it hoping to het laid, and she flipped out. Among her friend group I'm the 'kinky' guy and they act like that is a bad thing. Also, I have to go to extra work to make sure nobody finds out details, because I know they will judge me if they catch wind of some kinky shit going on.
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Sounds like you might have tried to move a little quickly there. You have to ease into it. Typically you gotta get past the more normal sexual activities before you take someone directly into your kink dungeon. Getting kinky with someone else involves a level of comfort, you clearly had not achieved that level of comfort yet.
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In retrospect, it probably was a little to far, but I don't have one special 'significant' other. I rely primarily on friends with benefits and online hookup dating. Commited relationships are not really a thing with me, which makes it more difficult. But that is still a sitaution a lot of people are in.