Jealousy, and trust issues

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I first want to start off by saying that I was abandoned by my mother at the age of three, and its been hard for me to trust people ever since. Ive been dating this guy for about a month and a half, and I feel that everything that comes out of his mouth is a lie. I always get mad over it all of the time, and in the end what he has been saying is true. When he talks to girls I get this really bad feeling in my stomach, it gets really bad if the girl us prettier than I am too. IIN?

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  • Kilt
    13 years ago | pl

    I am sorry that your mother left you but you need to come to the conclusion that it wasn't you fault and it had nothing to do with your lovability. Obvously you haven't told us what circumstances or mental state your mother was in at the time to do this but you were a baby and you couldn't of made that happen. You need to trust that you were a loveable child and are s lovable person. When you feel more confident in this fact you won't be as suspicious or mistrusting or jealous. If you boyfriend tells you the truth then he is trustworthy. If the relationship does end one day it might mean you are just going in different directions in life. In the meantime give yourself a chance to be loved and always remember somebody's else bad behavior is a reflection of their character not your worth!

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  • UliNalaMansae
    12 years ago | pl

    pfft... (sound of me thinking) Being jealous is not a good thing, i mean abandonment issues thats understandable, but (at the risk of sounding cliche) trust is important or believe me people will get tired of you.

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  • ladymantoloveyoulongtime
    13 years ago | pl

    Sounds to me that you need to talk to a professional and get help on your trust issues. If you spend the rest of your life not being able to trust anyone, how are you ever going to be happy? I know its hard but you cant judge everyone for what happened to you in the past.

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  • Paramorefan06
    13 years ago | pl

    Yeah I agree with you 100%, its just when I start trusting someone it ends up being bad in the end, and I end up getting hurt. I'm trying real hard not to get mad over stupid things, so far it's going great, and I hope to keep it up :)

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  • VegetableLasagna
    13 years ago | pl

    I have trust issues as well. I have maybe one person in my life that ive been able to tell anything too and other than that i dont trust anyone. I think with the boyfriend you shouldnt get mad at him for nothing, your jealousy could freak him out. Maybe give him a chance considering youve only been dating for little over a month.

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