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so i have been with my husband for 8years married for 4 and from day one he loves his video games. i never had a problem with it til we had kids. now it seems like xbox comes before everything. its the first thing he does when he comes home from work and there are days we don't see him at all b/c he is playing games. is it normal for me to be jealous of a video game?
This sounds like my cousin. He does this even though he has a wife and kids. Are you my cousin's wife? But anyway sit him down talk to him, or just play video games with him. Whatever floats your boat and rubs your ducky.
I'm a gamer and could easily spend all day at the screen. BUT after we had our first baby I was jealous of my husband's computer and dog! He took the dog out every day while I was stuck at home with a newborn, he'd come home and sit on the computer or play with that da*n dog!!
My suggestion is ask for him to spend x amount of time with you and the kids each night. Play for a half hour or hour when he gets home to unload, then have dinner and enjoy some time with the family. Maybe Saturday mornings he takes the kids out of the house, no xbox, you get a break and the rest of the day you take the kids and he can play xbox or whatever he wants.
Men need this kind of release, whether it's a game, watching tv etc. He does however, need to get in under control instead of letting it control him - he sounds addicted.
You sound naggy get off the guys back, it's fun ok? Maybe your not putting out ask him if he wants to do more in bed.
You knew about his addiction from the get go.
Ever sit down next to him, cuddle up, and blow each others' faces off on the X-Box, as a couple?
Could save your marriage.
Asking a man to chose between his console and you, is like asking a man to chose between his italian mother and you. Yep you know the answer.
You and your kids should just go play video games with him if you're wanting to spend more time with him. You shouldn't try to take away from him what he likes doing most because then he'll resent you.
My first thought was "Ooh. What games does he have?"
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Seriously, have you tried telling him how much this bothers you?
Does he have a lot of stress? A lot of guys play just to blow off some steam.
I am a gamer too. But I make time for the wife and kids. Games are very secondary to my family. (My wife would not have it any other way - I can respect that.) I'll usually only game after everyone has gone to bed. A lot of my male co-workers game and do the same thing - game after everyone else is asleep. This certainly makes for some rough mornings though. It ain't so easy to get up for work after 4 hours of sleep anymore.
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Give him limits and if he does not stop completely take it away. also make sure to see if he is playing behind your back if he does like i used to then there is a serious problem.
He needs to grow up and get it together, and if he doesn't... well then I'm afraid you married a child.
A lot of people like their video games but it sounds like he is taking his games too far. The other guy was right about quitting cold turkey that's the best way to stop all together. You could also try to find some kid friendly games and try to share some game time with him.
It can be very frustrating!! Especially when there's stuff to be done around the house. What is it with guys and video games??
It sounds like he is addicted to video games. It happened to me when I was a teenager. It's best to quit cold turkey. Talk to him about it, that it's causing problems. Suggest that he completely stop (100%%) for a week or two, as a trial, and see what happens. With his consent, put the xbox into storage, out of reach. Have other fun activities lined up to replace this.
Here's wat u do. Goin the room with a bat and start screaming "mother fucker!!! Get ur ass off tha damn x-box and sex me!!! Then get yo lazy ass up and play wit tha fuckin kids!!! And if he dnt listen smack him around a lil bit and smash the x-box and then say "who's ur fuckin daddy!!!! ME!!! U little bitch!!! Now get on this pussy mutha fucka!!!