It's OK to tell her that you love her; but, you also need to tell her that you will understand if she only sees you as a friend - and only wishes you to be a friend.
There are also different kinds of love as well (sex is not love; but romantic love includes sex). There is also platonic love, and general love for people in general, etc.
My lifelong best friend of 40+ years started out as a romantic dating for potential marriage. That did not immediately work out... but we still loved each other as people and were great friends. We actually romantically dated again decades later and again considered marriage. While we matched in so many ways... it was not a match in key areas... so we went back to just friends who loved each other in our hearts.
My wife knows all about this friend, and has no problem with her or us spending private time or even trips together, and she knows that we both love each other even if we were not right for marriage. My wife is very happy that I actually have shown the maturity to maintain such a life long friendship.
If your friend is not interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with you. Perhaps you should ask her if she knows of someone for you whom she things is suitable for you. Real friends will connect you.
Yes I perfectly understand her decision since I love her as much as her friendship and repects above all.
I fully agree that sex is no way to love someone and I can say that the feelings I have are not related to that, as I want to hug her so mutch, be by her side, support her, knowing if she os okay on top of all, among other things, I even planned to offer her a special gift made by me that would be a snow globe repesenting where we met for the first time.
I love your story of the relationship with your friend if nothing works out between me and my friend, I would love to keep that relationship also as two grown-up people.
I likes the suggestion so I Will keep it in mundo possibly it Will help me if it doesn't work for her She is so nice to me so it Will be fine.
I really appreciate the comment you made, I would also like to Ask if you think I should tell her that I love her personally ir because of the Covid online?
I believe you need to tell her you love her, and even inlcude that its a love that does not require sex.
It's always best to do so in person where you can see each others eyes, body language, hold hands, hug, etc.
However, with Covid-19 there is some reason to be cautious. Are you currently getting together periodically in person? If so, then I would just do it then.
If you are currently not seeing each other in real life due to Covid. Tell her that you would like to meet in person, and ask her what kind of protocols you would each need to follow to allow a personal meeting.
I'm fully vaccinated and I do meet with people in real life again. It's a bit chilly outside for parks this time of year (currently 18 F); but there are places to meet for coffee or food.
If she refuses to meet in person due to covid issues - the its best to use videoconferencing to tell her. At least you can see each other.
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It's OK to tell her that you love her; but, you also need to tell her that you will understand if she only sees you as a friend - and only wishes you to be a friend.
There are also different kinds of love as well (sex is not love; but romantic love includes sex). There is also platonic love, and general love for people in general, etc.
My lifelong best friend of 40+ years started out as a romantic dating for potential marriage. That did not immediately work out... but we still loved each other as people and were great friends. We actually romantically dated again decades later and again considered marriage. While we matched in so many ways... it was not a match in key areas... so we went back to just friends who loved each other in our hearts.
My wife knows all about this friend, and has no problem with her or us spending private time or even trips together, and she knows that we both love each other even if we were not right for marriage. My wife is very happy that I actually have shown the maturity to maintain such a life long friendship.
If your friend is not interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with you. Perhaps you should ask her if she knows of someone for you whom she things is suitable for you. Real friends will connect you.
I wish you the best.
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Yes I perfectly understand her decision since I love her as much as her friendship and repects above all.
I fully agree that sex is no way to love someone and I can say that the feelings I have are not related to that, as I want to hug her so mutch, be by her side, support her, knowing if she os okay on top of all, among other things, I even planned to offer her a special gift made by me that would be a snow globe repesenting where we met for the first time.
I love your story of the relationship with your friend if nothing works out between me and my friend, I would love to keep that relationship also as two grown-up people.
I likes the suggestion so I Will keep it in mundo possibly it Will help me if it doesn't work for her She is so nice to me so it Will be fine.
I really appreciate the comment you made, I would also like to Ask if you think I should tell her that I love her personally ir because of the Covid online?
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I believe you need to tell her you love her, and even inlcude that its a love that does not require sex.
It's always best to do so in person where you can see each others eyes, body language, hold hands, hug, etc.
However, with Covid-19 there is some reason to be cautious. Are you currently getting together periodically in person? If so, then I would just do it then.
If you are currently not seeing each other in real life due to Covid. Tell her that you would like to meet in person, and ask her what kind of protocols you would each need to follow to allow a personal meeting.
I'm fully vaccinated and I do meet with people in real life again. It's a bit chilly outside for parks this time of year (currently 18 F); but there are places to meet for coffee or food.
If she refuses to meet in person due to covid issues - the its best to use videoconferencing to tell her. At least you can see each other.
I wish you well with this.