It´s normal that i can´t do friends at university?

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I have a lot of problems to make friends in the university because i´m shy. I don´t know how to talk with strangers, so I just keep on silence, and I think that makes others see me unfriendly. I don´t know what to do, I thought about going to the psychologist, but I´m still not sure if that is going to help me.
I appreciate your advices.

P.S: Sorry if I have some spelling mistakes, I´m spanish and my english is still not good.

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  • _Mehhhh_
    6 years ago

    Your confidence is low more than likely, or maybe you haven't found people you've "clicked" with over common interests.

    Lots of universities (at least in The UK anyway) have "societies" where people join up and do activities they are interested in. That can be a great way to meet people. Otherwise, just get talking to people on your course or in your dorms.

    I used to be terrible at making conversation, but it's an art form you have to learn. It's about asking open-ended questions, and also being able to talk about yourself.

    And always remember, it's better to have just a few VERY good friends, than to be popular and have 20 "meh I'll hang out with you" associates. It's your closest friends who you will make the best memories with, doing even the most trivial things. I only had probably 4 close friends at university, and that was good enough for me.

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  • redrainbow22
    6 years ago

    All you need is confidence.

    And you dont have to make friends at university if you dont want. Thats up to you :)

    Dont feel pressured into something like that.

    You could get someone to help you gain confidence if you do wanna make friends. Or try building confidence slowly yourself :)

    Like start off saying "Hi" to people as you're walking by and work your way up from there :)

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