It's my first time, i'm apprehensive.

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I'm 20 years old, and a virgin. Not the most pathetic thing in the world, but I wanted to lose my virginity so I'd at least have some confidence to approach women with.

I've fantasized about being with women probably thousands upon thousands of times. And yet I've never even gotten my first kiss, or had a girlfriend, my weight has caused me to be shot down by every girl I ever asked, and the confidence broke the rest of the deals.

Tired of it, I recently met a woman online who said she would assist me in losing my virginity. At first I was ecstatic, for both a pleasurable reason and the confidence aspect, but as the days went on approaching our "date" if you will, I can't help but be more and more frightened and unsure if this is the way I want to lose my virginity.

I'm kind of a romantic guy, I always thought I'd lose my virginity to a girl I actually liked, you know, a GIRLFRIEND? And that it'd be a really passionate and amazing thing. Example: I met another girl online last year, we talked a lot and eventually wanted to meet, we were planning on having sex. I was not scared about this at all, I was actually very excited and gave no thought to losing my virginity, just that I wanted to have sex with her.

Before meeting this girl I even thought about getting a prostitute to lose my virginity to.

I guess what I'm asking is, is my apprehension normal? The part of me that's wanting to back out is absolutely amazing to me, I never thought I'd be able to turn down the idea of free sex, no matter what the girl looked like/who she was.

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  • JustDave
    11 years ago

    It never lives up to one's expectation. Afterward you'll probably think to yourself "this is what all the fuss is about?".

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  • zorpoxtheconqueror
    11 years ago

    I'm a virgin too, but I think it's worth the wait just alittle longer till you find the right person, to some people it might not mean much but I think it does. And mabey you might gain abit off confidence after that but still that confidence is easily attainable through any other form, mabey through sport or join a club etc. In my oppinion. you should concentrate more on the person your with rather then what it is going to accomplish so your not talking to her to have sex or lose your virginity, but because you genuinely intrested in her. I mean theres is a point where if the girl like you enough she won't care what you look like. So in my oppinion it's better to wait for someone special

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  • shuggy-chan
    11 years ago

    well i did this and i didnt like it, but but but. it did get it out of the way for me and most v-cards arent a great experiance, so just do it, and then you can focus on finding a girl and not banging a girl maybe

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  • Mmmpfh
    11 years ago

    You're apprehension is normal, but I don't think your views on the matter are. If you're feeling scared about it then maybe you shouldn't rush into it

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  • ubiquitous_joe
    11 years ago

    Apprehension is normal. But so is disappointment. Here's my opinion:

    There are three kinds of virginity. The kind you have before you have sex, the kind you have before you have REALLY GOOD SEX, and the kind you have before you have really good sex with someone you love and who loves you.

    You can take care of the first one like it's a business deal. Maybe even the second one. But last one doesn't work that way. I suspect the confidence boost you'd get from asking someone out is much stronger than the confidence boost you'd get from taking care of your virginity. But in the end, it's your call.

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    • simba1
      11 years ago

      Right on the button!!! I couldnt have put it better myself.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    It's normal to be apprehensive.

    If the girl you find isn't a complete bitch, she'll understand and she may even find it cute.

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  • ThousandPoundsOfGanja
    10 years ago

    Why you so excited to lose your virginity. Sex isn't all it's cracked to be, think of the pussy as a warm cave and your dick is a bear, you go in, wait a little while, then pop out and you done. Just fuck some fruit, it's close enough without all the emotions and STDs :)

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  • namredips
    11 years ago

    My wife and I were both virgins when we got married. It was fun to try it out together and learn together. I wouldn't change a thing.

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  • Ryan556
    11 years ago

    Don't rush to get laid its relly pleasant but it's better to get it from a gf I didn't get laid till your age and I'm still your age yes but you must not be rushing to get the weasel in the hole XD

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  • ForMyPeaceOfMind
    11 years ago

    The first time shouldn't be with just anybody...that's empty and meaningless! I know for me and most females, sex is an emotional thing and we like to feel connected with the person we're in bed with. I say wait until you find that "special" person...you can't get your virginity back, why just let anyone take something so precious away?!?

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