If you want to reduce the fear, you might try mentioning some of those activities first in a "theoretical" or "less personal" conversation.
I mean trying to see what he thinks about those things in general. For example, when you talk about something or someone or some topics related to sex, it might be worth mentioning a few of those things just to check it out whether he will not express any extremely negative feelings, if he does not express negative attitude to it when discussing it in general (not as your personal fantasy), then it might encourage you to mention something similar on a more personal level.
But of course it depends on what fantasies we are talking about (it might be different to speak about oral sex or using soft handcuffs which is quite common or gangbanging a nun which might require a more sophisticated approach:)
It's hard to ask..
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If you want to reduce the fear, you might try mentioning some of those activities first in a "theoretical" or "less personal" conversation.
I mean trying to see what he thinks about those things in general. For example, when you talk about something or someone or some topics related to sex, it might be worth mentioning a few of those things just to check it out whether he will not express any extremely negative feelings, if he does not express negative attitude to it when discussing it in general (not as your personal fantasy), then it might encourage you to mention something similar on a more personal level.
But of course it depends on what fantasies we are talking about (it might be different to speak about oral sex or using soft handcuffs which is quite common or gangbanging a nun which might require a more sophisticated approach:)