It's never the right thing to commit to a long term relationship to someone you know is untruthful and unfaithful. The very bases of a long term relationship is trust and mutual understanding.
That is a path to a person's own destruction. So you think its right to destroy another based on lies - just because "it might" protect someone else.
95% of a person's success in life is based on who they associate with - and the recommendation is to stay away from liars and cheats.
If it is not his child - I'd leave the Child future to others. It's not his responsibility.
Now if it is his child - then he has responsibilities. That may or may not include marriage though.
The basis of marriage isn't trust and mutual understanding; it's love and union. They're not the same thing. The two partners must want what's best for each other, and they must also be able to forgive each other. There are technically other rules, but I won't bore you things like the "openness to life" clause. To destroy oneself for the sake of another is good, but to destroy another for the sake of oneself or another is evil. Out of the possibilities, the child is clearly benefited more by OP staying. It may not be his responsibility, but it's the right thing to do either way. To leave the child is to cause it's "destruction" in some ways. However, even if staying causes his destruction, it would still be the right decision for OP to make, for the child's sake.
I'm a firm believer in the old saying, "don't mistake my kindness for weakness". I don't think it's unkind to leave a cheating woman if she gives birth to another man's child. I think the woman needs to go after the biological father for help with the child.
I think anyone who has sex outside of marriage without a condom is bat shit crazy!
If it's not his child it's not his responsibility.
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It's never the right thing to commit to a long term relationship to someone you know is untruthful and unfaithful. The very bases of a long term relationship is trust and mutual understanding.
That is a path to a person's own destruction. So you think its right to destroy another based on lies - just because "it might" protect someone else.
95% of a person's success in life is based on who they associate with - and the recommendation is to stay away from liars and cheats.
If it is not his child - I'd leave the Child future to others. It's not his responsibility.
Now if it is his child - then he has responsibilities. That may or may not include marriage though.
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The basis of marriage isn't trust and mutual understanding; it's love and union. They're not the same thing. The two partners must want what's best for each other, and they must also be able to forgive each other. There are technically other rules, but I won't bore you things like the "openness to life" clause. To destroy oneself for the sake of another is good, but to destroy another for the sake of oneself or another is evil. Out of the possibilities, the child is clearly benefited more by OP staying. It may not be his responsibility, but it's the right thing to do either way. To leave the child is to cause it's "destruction" in some ways. However, even if staying causes his destruction, it would still be the right decision for OP to make, for the child's sake.
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I don't think OP should dedicate his life to a child who isn't his.
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Why shouldn't he? It would me the morally kind thing to do.
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So he should stay with a cheating woman, and raise some other guy's kid, because, it would be the kind thing to do"? What about OP, what his life?
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Kind people put others before themselves.
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I'm a firm believer in the old saying, "don't mistake my kindness for weakness". I don't think it's unkind to leave a cheating woman if she gives birth to another man's child. I think the woman needs to go after the biological father for help with the child.
I think anyone who has sex outside of marriage without a condom is bat shit crazy!
If it's not his child it's not his responsibility.