It's really not necessary to continue to bully a teenager that made a mistake due to low self esteem. There are kinder ways to make your point, pretend sailor.
After how many years of hearing about how DANGEROUS unprotected sex can be, she STILL goes out and does it. That's just plain STUPIDITY, not low self esteem!
Yes, I have no problem with the content of your message...the manner in which you communicated it does not seem particularly constructive with regard to this particular OP...that is my only point.
Really? Remember, this is an 18 year old girl (supposedly) NOT a 12 year old. Just exactly why do you not think she needs a good swift kick in the ass, to wake her stupid ass up, before she gets AIDS or pregnant?
Be nice and coddle her all you want, but obviously the nice approach hasn't gotten through her thick skull in 18 years, has it?
Stupid is as stupid does, said the wise man's mother....
Read before you spout off.I'm not talking about what the OP NEEDS to hear, I'm talking about the best way to get through to them. When you want to convey necessary information to someone, it helps to assess their state of mind...the kick in the ass approach works in certain circumstances, but it is not always appropriate. You're overly concerned with getting your message across and wholy ignorant of the fact that stating it the way you do makes people VERY unlikely to listen to your advice...learn some social skills.
Your opinion. That doesn't necessarily make your way better than mine, does it? Obviously, the OP hasn't learned shit in 18 years, and I'm betting she's been taught more by your methods than mine.
Have you raised children?
I don't have " a way." Once again, you fail to read and understand what I am saying. If you knew anything about basic communication, you would understand that your approach should vary assuming you are actually interested in having the other party listen to anything you have to say. There are many different ways to say the same thing.
But, by all means, if you want to continue RANDOMLY using CAPS and giving STEREOTYPICAL and JUDGMENTAL advice merely because you are interested in hearing yourself speak and are convinced that you possess some greater wisdom based on your imaginary life experience, then go right ahead.
In my opinion, being conscious of the way in which you communicate your message does not necessarily constitute sugar coating...it just constitutes an awareness of the way in which you communicate ideas. Given that, people are more likely to listen. Trust me, I'm not apposed to taking a hard-assed bitchy approach, but I only do so when it's appropriate...you seem to do so across the board.
isitnormal i had unprotected sex and creampied by random boy?
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After how many years of hearing about how DANGEROUS unprotected sex can be, she STILL goes out and does it. That's just plain STUPIDITY, not low self esteem!
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Yes, I have no problem with the content of your message...the manner in which you communicated it does not seem particularly constructive with regard to this particular OP...that is my only point.
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Really? Remember, this is an 18 year old girl (supposedly) NOT a 12 year old. Just exactly why do you not think she needs a good swift kick in the ass, to wake her stupid ass up, before she gets AIDS or pregnant?
Be nice and coddle her all you want, but obviously the nice approach hasn't gotten through her thick skull in 18 years, has it?
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Read before you spout off.I'm not talking about what the OP NEEDS to hear, I'm talking about the best way to get through to them. When you want to convey necessary information to someone, it helps to assess their state of mind...the kick in the ass approach works in certain circumstances, but it is not always appropriate. You're overly concerned with getting your message across and wholy ignorant of the fact that stating it the way you do makes people VERY unlikely to listen to your advice...learn some social skills.
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Your opinion. That doesn't necessarily make your way better than mine, does it? Obviously, the OP hasn't learned shit in 18 years, and I'm betting she's been taught more by your methods than mine.
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I don't have " a way." Once again, you fail to read and understand what I am saying. If you knew anything about basic communication, you would understand that your approach should vary assuming you are actually interested in having the other party listen to anything you have to say. There are many different ways to say the same thing.
But, by all means, if you want to continue RANDOMLY using CAPS and giving STEREOTYPICAL and JUDGMENTAL advice merely because you are interested in hearing yourself speak and are convinced that you possess some greater wisdom based on your imaginary life experience, then go right ahead.
In my opinion, being conscious of the way in which you communicate your message does not necessarily constitute sugar coating...it just constitutes an awareness of the way in which you communicate ideas. Given that, people are more likely to listen. Trust me, I'm not apposed to taking a hard-assed bitchy approach, but I only do so when it's appropriate...you seem to do so across the board.