Is what this guy is doing to me normal?

There is this guy, that I have really started to like. He and I met 2 months ago, and we became really good friends. We texted non-stop, and talked all the time in the few classes we have together. Then, I got up the nerve to tell him that I like him, and he told me that he felt the same way. Nothing much really happend after that, we had many plans to hang out, but they kept getting ruined. Then, after a month, he told me that he didnt think it would work out. He said that he wasnt good enough for me. After that, we didnt talk for a week, and then he got a new girlfriend. Half a week later, he was talking to a friend of mine and told her that he broke up with his newest girlfriend because a girl was driving him crazy. He told her that the girl was me. A few days later, he texted me apologizing gor what he had done to me, and that he wanted a second chance to show me that he really is sorry.
I've decided to give it to him, and we are talking once again. But, recently, he sent me a new text message saying that "He doesnt think that he is good enough for someone like me. That I deserve someone better, someone who is going to do something big with their life.Someone who wont disapoint me." And I'm not sure if he was trying to make a point about disapointing me, or if he was implying that we might be together for a long time. He makes a lot of plans with me for the future, like things we will do together this summer, but, we arent even dating, or in a relationship. I just dont understand whats going on with him. Is it normal?

Is It Normal?
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  • I think he is just trying make you feel bad for him.

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  • Honestly, he is right. If he is trying to pull this on you twice now, he doesn't deserve to be with you. Boys are really weird, but this is a mind game so that he knows he can have you close on his leash. I think its time to cut him off or tell him this is his last chance. Good luck!

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  • it's normal for some guys to act that way. i kno i am way outta my wife's league, and sometimes it drops me into a deep depression where I feel like I wanna blow my head off. but, i don't do it bc i know my wife loves me and my suicide would bring her unbearable pain.

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  • Hes a queer

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  • Look, the way this guy is, is the way this guy is.

    His insecurity is a part of his personality and he will only be able to deal with his inner self on his own, in his own time and in his own way.

    If you really like him then try to appreciate that his insecurities are part of what makes him him and celebrate it as part of his individuality. Tell him that you really like him and that he can worry all he wants about wether he's good enough for you or not... you're going to be there for him regardless. Try not to highlight where his insecure personality has caused problems in your relationship but don't treat him as though you have to tread on eggshells.

    Again, only do all that if you really like him. Just go with the flow with him and i'm sure he'll sort himself out.

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  • Well, I talked to him about it recently. And we got in a heated conversation about it. Both of us kinda got upset over it. He just doesnt want me to get into a relationship with him, and then think that I made the wrong desicion, and that I screwed up. And now he is giving me all these excuses saying that he is scared to open up to me, because he doesnt want to get hurt, when he is constantly the one who hurts me. It was kinda a big argument, and I guess we made up afterwards....but, I'm not not really sure how he feels anymore. It's really quite frustrating, and stressful. I mean, I really do like him a lot, but I'm not sure I can take the way he treats me anymore...

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  • Sounds like this "guy" is too insecure. Is there a big difference in where you two come from? Maybe he feels he's from the "wrong" side of the tracks". Speak to him in person, asking him, "What do you mean when you say you're not good enough for me?" This will be you opportunity to address the "inferiority" he feels... Don't wait too long. Hope this helps.

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  • have you swallowed yet?

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  • this guy sounds like a prick. Put it to him:

    If i say i want to be in a relationship with u, regardless of whether or not u think ur not good enough, i still want to be in a relationship. With your logic, surely u found good catch with me so stick around becos i like you.

    The whole too good for you thing is a load of shit. Tell him to shut up and get on with it

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  • It's not normal. This guy seems like he doesn't know what he is, or what you are, or what he wants. You should have a talk with him to sort out what's going on, and if he says some stuff about not being good enough for you than you should believe it and move on.

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  • there was this guy who always made plans for the future for us....then i broke up with him

    sorry but thats me
    idk wht his deal is

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  • i'll assume you two are young, and therefore think that maybe he's insecure in himself.

    let him know that you don't like this wishy washy childish behavior, in a nice way, of course.

    you could also tell him that you can decide for yourself if he's good enough or not.

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  • maybe he's just confused, u should probably talk to him -face to face- and get things clear!

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