No, you are not wrong. I can't imagine living a life where I couldn't do the things I wanted because I was deeply paranoid & filled with fear.
Crimes against women do happen. You should be aware of that, but unless you live in a bad neighborhood & engage in really risky activities, they are statistically unlikely. Anyways, no point in living for a longer time, if you are too scared to live at all.
A large portion of the things I do are safe, like go to the museums, bike ride (day and night), go to cafes, ect. but I have recently been going to a local munch group in the city. There is nothing unsafe about the location or setting other than the fact that is a bunch of young random people meeting up to talk about kinky things. I have no regrets about going but I am worried that my family will think otherwise and shame me forever for engaging in a "dangerous" activity.
& I wouldn't be worried about going to sex related activities that are organized & at a paid venue...they probably have security & shit to ensure everyone's safety.
Your family won't know unless you decide to tell them...or something happens. It's your choice whether you want to talk to them or not, but it sounds like you aware of your environment & smart about being safe. Other than that, there's really not much more you can do. You should never give up your life or happiness worrying about what COULD happen. If you did that, you'd never leave the house...or even shower...so many people slip in the shower!
Listening to Americans online...it's very disturbing...so much:
You could get robbed at any time. You need to carry weapons. Train in self defense. The police won't help you. The gubbment is out ta getcha. Collect canned fewds. Fortify the bunker...like holy shit.
Just exercise common sense. Be aware of your surroundings. Don't do anything reckless & read up on what to do, should something bad happen. You absolutely are more vulnerable as a woman, but don't let that ruin your shit & keep you from living. Like, just be normal-people sensible & careful & you'll most likely be fine.
A Munch is considered a type of organized event where kinky people meet up in a vanilla setting to talk all things kinky. Its a stepping stone platform. You go to munch, meet some people, then hopefully make some friends and go to other more progressive events. (I dont really plan to do that yet). I think this post was created out of anger for still living with sheltering parents.
If I lived on my own, this post wouldnt be happening as I would be going to all the events I felt comfortable going to alone, and not worrying about anyone but me
But don't rage at your parents. They obviously love the shit out of you. Being overprotective means that they care...it's stifling, but it's a good thing.
Just be careful. Don't do anything reckless & take care of yourself. If you prove to them that you are capable of assessing the risks, making sure that you are safe & being smart, they will slowly begin to trust you. If they object to stuff, just talk to them & let them know that you are being safe.
They're being bitches because they love you & that's a good thing, even though it doesn't feel like it right meow.
I’m at that point in my life developmentally where I should be going out and exploring things on my own. But because i wasn't very good at making friends, its hard to please my parents and do the things I want. I know they love me, and I will miss them when they are gone, but sometimes I wish they would listen to my feelings too
They will. Just as asserting your independence has been a big process for you, letting go will be a big process for them. It will take time (assuming they aren't, like, super crazy lol). Just be honest with them, be responsible & show them that you can be trusted & that you are responsible. They'll slowly ease up.
I'm sure you'll lie to them about shit; I did with my parents, but try telling the truth occassionally, letting them know you'll be safe, being home when they say etc...they'll probably trust you a bit more...this is assuming they aren't totally overbearing...
Oh, you are totally correct & that's not what I was saying st all. Of course, crimes against women happen everywhere. In all walks of life & in all circumstances. It's good for women to be aware that they are always potentially at risk. Statistically speaking, though, you would be more at risk in certain parts of the world & that is just the truth.
You can do things to mitigate the risk by avoiding those areas & not taking unnecessary risks (& by risky behaviour I don't mean having sex or dressing a certain way, what I mean is not being aware of your surroundings, walking with headphones in, flashing your cash around when you take it out if an ATM).
I'm aware that crimes against women happen everywhere, but I don't think the onus should be on the victims to stop living their lives freely. Yeah, we should be aware of where we are, if it's risky & try to avoid shit that puts us at risk, but we shouldn't have to retreat to our houses at dusk & never flash out ankles. There's a balance between being smart& careful & being overly cautious & never living life. That was my point.
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No, you are not wrong. I can't imagine living a life where I couldn't do the things I wanted because I was deeply paranoid & filled with fear.
Crimes against women do happen. You should be aware of that, but unless you live in a bad neighborhood & engage in really risky activities, they are statistically unlikely. Anyways, no point in living for a longer time, if you are too scared to live at all.
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A large portion of the things I do are safe, like go to the museums, bike ride (day and night), go to cafes, ect. but I have recently been going to a local munch group in the city. There is nothing unsafe about the location or setting other than the fact that is a bunch of young random people meeting up to talk about kinky things. I have no regrets about going but I am worried that my family will think otherwise and shame me forever for engaging in a "dangerous" activity.
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I feel old af...what is a "munch group"?
& I wouldn't be worried about going to sex related activities that are organized & at a paid venue...they probably have security & shit to ensure everyone's safety.
Your family won't know unless you decide to tell them...or something happens. It's your choice whether you want to talk to them or not, but it sounds like you aware of your environment & smart about being safe. Other than that, there's really not much more you can do. You should never give up your life or happiness worrying about what COULD happen. If you did that, you'd never leave the house...or even shower...so many people slip in the shower!
Listening to Americans online...it's very disturbing...so much:
You could get robbed at any time. You need to carry weapons. Train in self defense. The police won't help you. The gubbment is out ta getcha. Collect canned fewds. Fortify the bunker...like holy shit.
Just exercise common sense. Be aware of your surroundings. Don't do anything reckless & read up on what to do, should something bad happen. You absolutely are more vulnerable as a woman, but don't let that ruin your shit & keep you from living. Like, just be normal-people sensible & careful & you'll most likely be fine.
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A Munch is considered a type of organized event where kinky people meet up in a vanilla setting to talk all things kinky. Its a stepping stone platform. You go to munch, meet some people, then hopefully make some friends and go to other more progressive events. (I dont really plan to do that yet). I think this post was created out of anger for still living with sheltering parents.
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How do I find one of these munch meetings? It sounds like something I need!
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You just google around for munches in your respective city. This one is mine: http://tngc.org/index.html
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Are you sure there are other ones besides Chicago? I couldn't find any others.
That sounds like a bunch of fun hahaha!
But don't rage at your parents. They obviously love the shit out of you. Being overprotective means that they care...it's stifling, but it's a good thing.
Just be careful. Don't do anything reckless & take care of yourself. If you prove to them that you are capable of assessing the risks, making sure that you are safe & being smart, they will slowly begin to trust you. If they object to stuff, just talk to them & let them know that you are being safe.
They're being bitches because they love you & that's a good thing, even though it doesn't feel like it right meow.
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I’m at that point in my life developmentally where I should be going out and exploring things on my own. But because i wasn't very good at making friends, its hard to please my parents and do the things I want. I know they love me, and I will miss them when they are gone, but sometimes I wish they would listen to my feelings too
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They will. Just as asserting your independence has been a big process for you, letting go will be a big process for them. It will take time (assuming they aren't, like, super crazy lol). Just be honest with them, be responsible & show them that you can be trusted & that you are responsible. They'll slowly ease up.
I'm sure you'll lie to them about shit; I did with my parents, but try telling the truth occassionally, letting them know you'll be safe, being home when they say etc...they'll probably trust you a bit more...this is assuming they aren't totally overbearing...
Oh really, so crimes against women only happen in bad neighbourhoods or when we engage in risky activities? Bullshit
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Oh, you are totally correct & that's not what I was saying st all. Of course, crimes against women happen everywhere. In all walks of life & in all circumstances. It's good for women to be aware that they are always potentially at risk. Statistically speaking, though, you would be more at risk in certain parts of the world & that is just the truth.
You can do things to mitigate the risk by avoiding those areas & not taking unnecessary risks (& by risky behaviour I don't mean having sex or dressing a certain way, what I mean is not being aware of your surroundings, walking with headphones in, flashing your cash around when you take it out if an ATM).
I'm aware that crimes against women happen everywhere, but I don't think the onus should be on the victims to stop living their lives freely. Yeah, we should be aware of where we are, if it's risky & try to avoid shit that puts us at risk, but we shouldn't have to retreat to our houses at dusk & never flash out ankles. There's a balance between being smart& careful & being overly cautious & never living life. That was my point.
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Most crimes against women happen in the home or by someone the woman knows
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I was answering the question. The question is about the OP going out, not violence in the home.
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Yeah I did go off the track a bit there, didn't I? True though
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All good. It's an important topic. I'd rather people get carried away than not care at all!