Well we also have to consider:
-The cost of having a children
-The area is not child-friendly
-Medical infertility, meaning there's a biological reasoning a heterosexual couple can't have children.
-Social infertility, such as a gay or lesbian couple being unable to have biological children.
-Cultural infertility, like when a couple (or single) wants to use A.R.T. (assisted reproductive technology) to have biological children, but are rejected by private clinics because of language barriers, personal beliefs of the doctors/clinic owners (they think you're too old to have children, they don't like homosexuals, or don't want to help interracial couples, etc etc etc).
-Adoption can take years, tons of money, and lots of legal processes that are unique state-by-state with restrictions.
-Or it could be just as simple as, I don't desire children.
I mean, to label it as "selfishness" by not having children is selfish thinking in itself. Reproduction is a fundamental right. That includes my choice to reproduce, as well my choice NOT to reproduce. And rearing children doesn't mean someone is any less selfish. Many children are abused, abandoned. Some children are results of rape or incest. Some are unplanned- in fact many are unplanned. Some may argue getting an abortion is selfish or unselfish pending a person's beliefs.
Not to mention, some people argue that our choices to help others can also be selfish. We say all the time, "Tis better to give than receive." So then it could be argued that me giving money to a homeless stranger isn't necessarily for their benefit, but for my own personal boost of confidence. Using such a discrete word like "selfishness" doesn't work. It's like trying to define "love" or "freedom". It's a person-by-person definition.
Is this true about couples without kids?
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Well we also have to consider:
-The cost of having a children
-The area is not child-friendly
-Medical infertility, meaning there's a biological reasoning a heterosexual couple can't have children.
-Social infertility, such as a gay or lesbian couple being unable to have biological children.
-Cultural infertility, like when a couple (or single) wants to use A.R.T. (assisted reproductive technology) to have biological children, but are rejected by private clinics because of language barriers, personal beliefs of the doctors/clinic owners (they think you're too old to have children, they don't like homosexuals, or don't want to help interracial couples, etc etc etc).
-Adoption can take years, tons of money, and lots of legal processes that are unique state-by-state with restrictions.
-Or it could be just as simple as, I don't desire children.
I mean, to label it as "selfishness" by not having children is selfish thinking in itself. Reproduction is a fundamental right. That includes my choice to reproduce, as well my choice NOT to reproduce. And rearing children doesn't mean someone is any less selfish. Many children are abused, abandoned. Some children are results of rape or incest. Some are unplanned- in fact many are unplanned. Some may argue getting an abortion is selfish or unselfish pending a person's beliefs.
Not to mention, some people argue that our choices to help others can also be selfish. We say all the time, "Tis better to give than receive." So then it could be argued that me giving money to a homeless stranger isn't necessarily for their benefit, but for my own personal boost of confidence. Using such a discrete word like "selfishness" doesn't work. It's like trying to define "love" or "freedom". It's a person-by-person definition.