The thing is I wish I could, but its really not my place and it would have an HUGE impact on the people around me. I told the victim to speak up, but she does not want too. I don't even know what to do anymore.
Consider the fact that person b could do it again and that you might have a responsibility in preventing it. Even if it will hurt families, isn't that better than the hurt the victim(s) must be feeling?
Let it go. Overreacting and calling the cops over a one-time incident is destructive to the family and stupid. A just needs to avoid B. And person C (you) should stay out of it.
I think it depends on the situation which we don't really know the details of... Person A could be grandma and Person B could be the retarded cousin. Call the cops, cousin goes nuts and gets shot
I don't see any situation where a sexual assualt victim should feel forced to bury it for the good of other people. If they don't want to tell someone that's their choice, but hopefully the victim will speak out. They shouldn't have to keep quiet to make everyone elses life easier. If someone gets further hurt by the victim reporting it it's STILL the perpetrators fault that the other people got hurt too, NOT the victim. No one should be forced to swallow such a violation to protect anyone.
although you can't make the victim do anything she doesn't want to do, you must make her aware that the perpetrator could be doing it to other people as well, and as long as he gets away with it the more he'll do it, he may well think he's untouchable and take it to the next level next time which could result in somebody being raped, so if she doesn't want to do it for herself, then she should go to the police to stop it potentially happening to others.
Is this rape or what?
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The thing is I wish I could, but its really not my place and it would have an HUGE impact on the people around me. I told the victim to speak up, but she does not want too. I don't even know what to do anymore.
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Consider the fact that person b could do it again and that you might have a responsibility in preventing it. Even if it will hurt families, isn't that better than the hurt the victim(s) must be feeling?
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If this is going on in a family, that family is already hurt, it's just not being acknowledged or the perpetrator being called to account
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There may not be much more that you can do except to be supportive of the victim and wary of the perpetrator.
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Yes, well said. As a counselor I know this all too well :/
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Right on!
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Thanks, it's nice to be on the same page with you on this.
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Let it go. Overreacting and calling the cops over a one-time incident is destructive to the family and stupid. A just needs to avoid B. And person C (you) should stay out of it.
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I disagree with your opinion on what to do strongly and the reason is exactly what Short4Words said!
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I think it depends on the situation which we don't really know the details of... Person A could be grandma and Person B could be the retarded cousin. Call the cops, cousin goes nuts and gets shot
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I live in the UK the police, don't really shoot.
I don't see any situation where a sexual assualt victim should feel forced to bury it for the good of other people. If they don't want to tell someone that's their choice, but hopefully the victim will speak out. They shouldn't have to keep quiet to make everyone elses life easier. If someone gets further hurt by the victim reporting it it's STILL the perpetrators fault that the other people got hurt too, NOT the victim. No one should be forced to swallow such a violation to protect anyone.
although you can't make the victim do anything she doesn't want to do, you must make her aware that the perpetrator could be doing it to other people as well, and as long as he gets away with it the more he'll do it, he may well think he's untouchable and take it to the next level next time which could result in somebody being raped, so if she doesn't want to do it for herself, then she should go to the police to stop it potentially happening to others.