Is this normal: trust? sexuality?
I am an eighteen year old girl. I have never in my life been in a relationship. I really have no clue who or what I am. I feel lonely, but when people try to get close to me I push them away. I know that I do this, yet I can't stop it. I have a few friends I talk to at school, but if they ask me places or invite me I decline. I am scared, I think, but I don't really know why. I have never had a boyfriend, but also I have never been attracted to anyone before (boy or girl). I do not trust guys at all. I don't know, I always feel like they will hurt me in some way.
I wasn't always this way though. Four years ago and earlier I had lots of friends. They weren't the most perfect people and all of them definitely had baggage. But even then I couldn't talk to guys. I gravitated to girls.
Four years ago all my friends turned on me and my dad lost his job and my mom and him always fought. Not too long after that i was diagnosed with an eating disorder I know spawned not from body image but from control, or lack thereof.
Two years ago I had 2 close friends. One died of CF, and the other just left me. She switched schools and I don't hear from her anymore.
Their is only one person outside of my family that I can even talk to. He is about a year younger than me, and he is gay. For some reason I feel I can trust him, sort of. I still don't tell anyone anything of consequence.
I don't know what I really want from posting this story. It was probably really stupid.
Maybe I just want to know why I am so messed up. I want and at the same time don't want to make relationships with people. I want, but don't want, to have trust.
Does anyone have any advice (please don't tell me to see a shrink, I have and it was awful).
Thanks