That was when I was like 13. And like I've said, I've moved out many times and she always spirals and get's strange and needy. She cries and begs me to come back and I can't take seeing her upset so I cave.
You can't live in peace with someone who takes out their anger on you. It doesn't matter if I do as I'm told or I stand up for myself because she wants two things from me.
An emotional punching bag
And someone to care about her.
I take it from your answer you have absolutely no background in mental health. She comes from generations of mental illness and abuse.
The biggest thing that bothers me is how, for so long, she painted my dad as a terrible person who was the cause of her pain. This caused a lot of distance between us. I'm only now realizing that she's mentally unstable. My dad is actually a really good man.
I don't appreciate your condescending response either. I do my best to do what's right. It's hard to know the line between standing up for yourself and getting emotionally abused. If you grew up moving all the time and had, for the most part, one reference and that reference told you all your life that you're worthless without her, it would affect you too.
I think your time would be much better spent listening, than defending yourself. You obviously came here for input, and when you get it you get all upset by the way it was delivered.
By the way, I left my crazy person at 15 and never looked back.
There seems to be a good possibility you need this relationship every bit as much as she does.
You may love your mother very much, but IMO this codependent relationship isn't good for either one of you.
Get angry if you want, but when you air things on a public forum, you can't expect EVERYONE to say what you want to hear.
I wouldn't say I'm angry. If anything it seems like you're being hostile. So... I'm not sure what to tell you in terms of that...
I do spend a fair amount of time listening. I actually don't talk much in general. There is only so far I can be pushed though. And yes, I do need her as much as she needs me. Probably more. That's kind of the whole point, I feel stuck.
I certainly don't expect everyone to say what I want to hear lol. I wasn't born yesterday. I do think you're a bit insecure though, I don't see any other reason you would act so emotional about something that isn't at all personal to you.
Is this normal or narcissistic behavior from a mother
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That was when I was like 13. And like I've said, I've moved out many times and she always spirals and get's strange and needy. She cries and begs me to come back and I can't take seeing her upset so I cave.
You can't live in peace with someone who takes out their anger on you. It doesn't matter if I do as I'm told or I stand up for myself because she wants two things from me.
An emotional punching bag
And someone to care about her.
I take it from your answer you have absolutely no background in mental health. She comes from generations of mental illness and abuse.
The biggest thing that bothers me is how, for so long, she painted my dad as a terrible person who was the cause of her pain. This caused a lot of distance between us. I'm only now realizing that she's mentally unstable. My dad is actually a really good man.
I don't appreciate your condescending response either. I do my best to do what's right. It's hard to know the line between standing up for yourself and getting emotionally abused. If you grew up moving all the time and had, for the most part, one reference and that reference told you all your life that you're worthless without her, it would affect you too.
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I think your time would be much better spent listening, than defending yourself. You obviously came here for input, and when you get it you get all upset by the way it was delivered.
By the way, I left my crazy person at 15 and never looked back.
There seems to be a good possibility you need this relationship every bit as much as she does.
You may love your mother very much, but IMO this codependent relationship isn't good for either one of you.
Get angry if you want, but when you air things on a public forum, you can't expect EVERYONE to say what you want to hear.
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I wouldn't say I'm angry. If anything it seems like you're being hostile. So... I'm not sure what to tell you in terms of that...
I do spend a fair amount of time listening. I actually don't talk much in general. There is only so far I can be pushed though. And yes, I do need her as much as she needs me. Probably more. That's kind of the whole point, I feel stuck.
I certainly don't expect everyone to say what I want to hear lol. I wasn't born yesterday. I do think you're a bit insecure though, I don't see any other reason you would act so emotional about something that isn't at all personal to you.
Relax...
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You, of all people, trying to psychoanalyze me, that's the funniest fucking thing I've ever heard. Bye bye now, and enjoy livin in your nut house.
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Lol. It takes one to know one.