He's co-dependent, and from the sounds of it, so are you. I would strongly suggest going to Al-Anon or Coda (I think that's how it's spelled). They are more or less the same thing.
Anyway, your son is co-dependent but also seems to be suffering from serious other problems (such as very low self-esteem). No one stays with someone like that unless they are emotionally/mentally messed up in one form or another.
It is normal for you as a mother to want the best for your son, but you need to understand that he is outside of your control. You cannot fix him. Only he can fix himself. You can offer to help him help himself by going to CODA/Al-Anon meetings. If he starts working one of those programs he would have a very high chance of leaving her. Basically, working the 12 steps (despite my having some irrelevant personal disagreements) is a healing process that helps straighten your life out. For Al-Anons/CODA's your "drug of choice" is people.
I wish you the best. If you have any other questions comment again and I'll do my best to help.
is this normal or is there a name for it?
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He's co-dependent, and from the sounds of it, so are you. I would strongly suggest going to Al-Anon or Coda (I think that's how it's spelled). They are more or less the same thing.
Anyway, your son is co-dependent but also seems to be suffering from serious other problems (such as very low self-esteem). No one stays with someone like that unless they are emotionally/mentally messed up in one form or another.
It is normal for you as a mother to want the best for your son, but you need to understand that he is outside of your control. You cannot fix him. Only he can fix himself. You can offer to help him help himself by going to CODA/Al-Anon meetings. If he starts working one of those programs he would have a very high chance of leaving her. Basically, working the 12 steps (despite my having some irrelevant personal disagreements) is a healing process that helps straighten your life out. For Al-Anons/CODA's your "drug of choice" is people.
I wish you the best. If you have any other questions comment again and I'll do my best to help.