Is this normal? i've fallen in love with a man who has a family?

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Hi ! I'm new here... So :) .
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Last summer there was some new people that moved in across the street.. I didn't even know they moved in til I actually realized that someone was living there.. Well I didn't really care I was just thinking ''Ok ! They are just new people who cares?'' Well.. He started staring at me alot.. And I didn't care at first but then it got to me so I started staring back.. He has kids and a wife or baby momma.. I am not sure . A few months ago I finally told him that I liked him.. He said he felt the same.. We stared for months before I even actually talked to him.. But we talked for a lil while then I left.. Well like a few weeks later he's coming up to me and talking to me.. I thought he would forget my name but he didn't.. We don't talk much but every now and then.. Here lately he's been hugging me.. This just recently happened.. I do like it though.. All the time he is saying my name when he's outside and he see's me.. He even talks to me around his kid's.. He has three btw . He told me It's his baby momma not his wife.. But I am not sure what to believe.. My problem is.. I fell in love with him . Yes I might be eighteen years old and I do know what love is.. I've only been in love once.. Well now twice.. But I can't go to sleep at night because he's on my mind.. I think about him all day LONG.. When I see him I get butterflies.. When he says my name I melt.. Every song I listen to reminds me of him.. I get mad when people talk bad about him.. I'm just there for him even though I've never told him that.. He says he likes me alot and wishes that he could tell me how he really feels.. But he never has time to actually talk to me because his kids and baby momma / wife are always home.. Can someone please help me.. Is this normal? And do you think he's just using me? He's 28 . I'm eighteen... His kids are six,ten,eleven.. Btw .

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Hun don't even go there. If you do anything with him it will ruin his wife and childrens lives. Believe me, being a child of split up parents sucks. It's not worth it and he is probably only looking to get laid. He would never leave his family for you (no matter what he may say) all you would be is a booty call. He will not and does not love you. So save yourself and his family the heartache and find someone your own age and move on.

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    Totally normal...for a home-wrecking whore.

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  • yayasaga
    13 years ago

    Your practically the same age as his children. You're practically a child yourself. I know that's not what you want to hear but by telling him you like him and continuing what you have going in with him shows it and your maturity level. How would you feel if you were the wife, or baby momma as you put it? Or one of his children? Honestly where do you see this going? Nowhere. He has three older children who need adults to raise them, not a another child who just turned a legal adult. Plus what kind of man is he? Why would you want that for yourself. You're obviously seeing firsthand what kind of sleezball he is. ESP talking to you in front of his kids. No matter what you're talking about. It's just all wrong. And karma always finds it's way.

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    • sunshinemoonlight
      7 years ago

      yes I agree

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Of course he is using you. He has the morals of an alley cat. Where on earth is your judgement? Forget about your crushing and use your head.

    Also, why are you so lonely that this guy - who's been knocking up at least 1 women & having kids since he was 16 - even looks like a prospect? He is trouble. Big time.

    Your problem is that you are very lonely & need to do something constructive about that. Seeing any more of him will only add to your problems.

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  • DaFakeBeepBeep
    8 years ago

    Its even normal to be married and have crushes on people so I'm guessing you're fine

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  • SDDA
    10 years ago

    It's normal to like anyone, whether they have a family or not. I wouldn't listen to anyone here if I were you, though I would not make the first move. Let everything be the way it is now, and if he likes you enough or wants you enough then he would make the first move himself. Or maybe he does like you enough but not enough to abandon his family. You would not be the homewrecker if you waited on the side, he'd be the one making the decision. You're just leaving it open to him.

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  • Silverloin
    11 years ago

    don't be that person who ruins the family (i don't want to say homewrecher cuz that's rude but)

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  • BallerinaCass
    13 years ago

    My friend is 18 and she's dating a 28 year old. Age doesn't matter and because your age is so close to the kids, you might all get along swell. Who knows, you could be his next baby mama lol.

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  • Sabaky
    13 years ago

    Go for someone ur age and this guy if probably using u for sex no offense! But this is a normal feeling.

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  • sailormars
    13 years ago

    Girl, I'd hate to see you get hurt. Get away. These are obvious signs of someone who is out to use you. Find someone who will respect you.

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  • CaramelChrissy
    13 years ago

    I say try to get over him. He seems like trouble and he has to take care of his kids. It may be just the baby momma but he might just be involved with that woman too. As of what yayasaga has said, leave him be. You are too young to be messing around with him.

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  • malikacore
    13 years ago

    well girl i think its normal, guys r just going to look for an opportunity to get a piece of ass, dont fall for what he's doing if he liked u he would of done something by now..
    Im in a situation where my current boyfriend is 38 and im 18..yes BIG diffrence but I love him and we've been dating for two yrs now.. the problem is he has a girlfirend and hasn't left her yet idk y but they r living together and what not..but all that is going to change due to the fact that Im going to move in with him and all, but we have to leave it up to time..
    btw no children involved lol
    well i hope u the best and i can tell u that ur neighbor sure ain't worth it all ur gnna get is drama from him

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