Is this normal? abortion?

You are open and free to make a choice. I'm the first poster here and I can assure you people are going to get nasty with you. You need to talk it out with the people you trust and love. Do not make this decision to please anyone. Do whatever you need to do, for yourself, your heart. In two weeks, two months, two years all these posters will have moved on and long forgotten about you. You are the only one who has to live with this decision. You will be the only one left crying with remorse and regret. The only one carrying the baby, you understand? There are pros and cons to every decision. But you need to make it. Sometimes it's easier to have someone tell you what to do. But in the end, it only gives you someone to blame to justify your actions. Pro or con. In the end it's on you. Can you live with the guilt if you do it? Will you resent your boyfriend if you do it ? Will you have support if you keep the babe, will he leave? Is adoption an option? There are so many questions and the answers are not always right there. Talk it out, get advice from impartial third parties. Take some time to think hard on this and don't be rash. Remember, you live with the choice, nothing will say he stays if you terminate, nothing says he stays if you don't. His life will go on, with or without you. Can you raise a baby alone? Are you ready? Having a baby won't keep the man, or his heart. Be strong, be brave. Don't be forced into any decision. Follow your heart. Good luck

Do what u need to regardless of him. But know that whatever he says, you will almost 100% end up a single mother. Why do it, you have the rest of your adult years to find someone more perfect (im not getting that it is him, regardless of your feelings of love) and have a nice nuclear family if its what you want.

It is indeed your choice, and your life, his, less so.

I'm not gna start on a rant since its not my styyle(; buuut the miracle of life is a beautiful thing(: if you abort you'll have a lot of "what if" questions (what if she liked sponge bob? What if she had MY eyes? What if he liked football etc.), your bf might feel pressured or overwhelmed but you have to calmly talk it out as adults n consider ALL your options(:

Your boyfriend is right. Kill that fetus and live your life.

why do you want a abortion because you are killing a baby think about you mom what if she wanted to have a abortion with you would want to jump out of your mom's belly but you can't because you are connected to a cord and because you have no muscle and because you depend on your mom please don't kill that baby what ever you do because god will curse you only if you believe in him don't kill the baby you are carrying a precious baby do it for the human race.thanks

i think that you are not holding yourself responsible because you want a abortion .

Totally your choice.

Have it and put him on child support.

See if he likes THAT idea.

Your relationship will not survive regardless, he doesn't want you to have it and you want to keep the baby. Either way. Imagine aborting it, every time you look at him, you'll think about what YOU sacrificed for this dude. Your first (un)born child..

He justt doesn't want any attachments. Y'all are young.

However, if you do have the abortion I strongly advise not going back to this guy.

Don't get an abortion if you don't want to just because the man who you think you love wants you too, if YOU don't feel right about it, don't do it. Don't let him control your decision, it doesn't sound like he really loves you if he would try to force you do to that and not respect your decision. Oh, and frankly it doesn't matter if other women have had abortions and didn't regret it, it only matters if you would regret it, you should do what you feel is right, not your boyfriend or anyone else.

By now she's either going to have the baby or had an abortion. Give it a rest.

It is NOT your right, it is the baby's right to live. what would the baby say if it was older and i my wife had Twins at 18 and its easy all you have to do feed them change them and play with them. btw im VERY happy with my family. oh and if its to late then you can chop its head off, its pretty much the same as abortion.

It IS your right to kill it, and it is his right to leave you if you dont.

So which is more important: a collection of cells which may form into a baby that you probably cant take care of properly or your boyfreind who you say you love.

Contrary to what the second person posted, every single woman I know who has had an abortion, and I'm talking eight women here, most assuredly regret it. I can't tell you how much time and money they have spent cumulatively in therapy about their decision. I am 100% pro-life: it is NEVER the child's fault. Abortion is the easy way out and why most people choose abortion in circumstances like yours: they are too weak to step up and make the life changes necessary to handle the decision they themselves uave made. Nevertheless, this is your life and it is your body. YOU, and only you, should make this decision. If your boyfriend doesn't support the decision you make then how will you ever be able to expect him to support you on anything in your life together? Believe me, couples have many more serious problems to work through than this.

I wish you the best of luck with whatever decision you make. Stay strong!

Who me "peace and love?" I was on the pill, but I missed two in my pack and couldn't get a refill because we were on vacation at the time. And the morning after pill was not available then. But then again, I'm absolutely, 100 percent sure that you've NEVER made any sort of mistake in life. Especially as a teen.

I had an abortion about ten years ago and I can honestly say I do not have one regret. It would have been a disaster to have had a child then. And to give you an idea of how right the decision was for me at that point in my life, I'm now have fertility issues (NOT from the abortion, it's from a hormonal imbalance much like menopause except I'm only 29), and I still wouldn't change how I handled it back then. Do what is right for you, because in the end, you're the only one who has to live with your decision, either way. Good luck!

Adoption, or abortion, than straight to counciling for you! Kids ruin your life at that age. Of course he's going to be nervous. Good luck :(

Wow! Damn! Best of luck

My sister had an abortion when she was younger it wasn't her husband's baby he told her he wasn't raising another man's baby & would leave her 2 this day she has regretted it stays very depressed over it her&her husband have been divorced back 2gether they r 2gether 2day & both have a child they r raising that doesn't belong 2 them please don't do this over some man think about ur self& ur future what is waiting 4 u down then road & this child could grow up 2 be a great person who changes something in the world

Don't kill a baby over a boy! Please don't!

please dont get an abortion. my friend did, and every night she cries about it knowing that she ended a babies chance of life. i completely agree with the person that said if you guys were responsible enough to have sex you have to be responsible to take the consequences. 18 is not very young, my mom was that age when she had my older brother. no one was angry with her, everyone was very supportive and it was an amazing decision she said.

I think that getting an abortion is discusting! If you don't want to have a baby than why be itrisponsible and have unprotected sex? Killing an innocent life, your own flesh and blood for your mistakes? That's just selfish! And adoption is ALWAYS an option bc some people can't have children and would love yours...

if you are not capable of giving the child the best life iit can have i think you should get an abortion. if you thinks its not going to be healthy its okay.

He is terrified and he's not expressing his fears appropriately. You don't HAVE to get an abortion. Follow you heart.

You do know that your carrying a living baby inside you? And you want to kill it? You better do the right thing and have that baby. There have been books about the effects of abortions on women, and all the posts that say they don't feel anything are lies.

It's normal for this decision to be troubling and carry a fair amount of intensity. It's normal for folks who face this situation not to be at there best. It's normal to imagine any number of bad scenerios, and it's normal to be afraid. That's what boyfriend was telling you. He's simply telling you how afraid he is. That's all.

Havind a child is a life altering decision. Make it with careful contemplation. But I think your boyfriend has shown that he is not mature enough to be a solid influence/parent with you. The last thing you need is to rely on him to be there for you and then flake out (like he just did). Either decision you make will be what's best FOR YOU. Just be prepared to go it alone, and probably for the better.

Whether u choose to abort or not the relationship should probably go, there r guys out there who would not put u in the position of chosing between them or ur baby. Do u really want to be with someone who only cares about themself?

The 3 posts above sum it up very well.

I can't vote one way or the other since it's such a personal decision. It also really depends on your situation. I agree with Grumpy you need to spend time looking at all your options, this is a decission your going to live with the rest of your life. So do what's best for you and this potential child cause as much as you love your bf now he may not be in your life 10 (or even 5) years from now (just look at the divorce rates).

everyone I know (myself included) that has had an abortion has not regretted it. I do not feel guitly at all. I would feel guilty if I had a child that I couldn't have given my
full love and attention to while I was still growing up. everyone I know that has had a child when they were very young says "I love him/her more than anything in this world but if I could go back and do it again I would have waited till I was older to have a baby". those are just my personal observations and experience. it is compleatly your choice and no one elses.

Fuckin sick it's ruining and innocent humans chance of living it will never be hAppy u would not give it a chance at life

Well I think if you are responsible enough to have sex, then you should have the baby. You could give it up for adoption to a family that isn't lucky enough to have children..

I hate abortion! If you are responible enough to have sex you should be reaponsible enough to handle the consiquences. Why don't you just go for adoption?

You go around having sex then your like oh yeah I can have an abortion. Did you ever think about adoption ? You killed a little baby !!!!! People go to jail because they kill bald eagles, but poepl like you go and kill your baby.