Is this jealousy or something else?

Hello. I just wrote the other question, "Why the heck is she ignoring me?"

[IF YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT IM TALKING ABOUT JUST READ THE PART THAT SAYS STORY]

First of all, I just wanted to say that I don't know why everyone who posted replies thinks I'm conceited. I never even think twice about looks and I never usually judge people based on them, but my close friend pointed out that my boyfriend's younger sister hates me because of jealousy based on looks or lifestyle.

I was only looking for someone to post "yes it is jealousy" or "no it is not". Why I got hate comments is beyond me. It hurts enough for her to make up lies about me behind my back and have all your comments be so rude and hurtful to me. I am depressed enough as it is, okay? I am never mean to her or anyone. I never said anything mean to anyone ever except for siblings but who hasn't?

So please, answer again this time realizing that I was not trying to be conceited, okay? I'm sorry. I'm very upset about this because I never had anyone hate me before the way she does and I think it's hard to understand me over the internet.
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THE STORY
My boyfriend's sister did the following things to me without a reason:
-Told her friend that I was fat and ugly.
-Told her brother(my boyfriend) to stop dating me because I wasn't right for him.
-Told her mother that I called her ugly.
-Stole my love necklace my boyfriend gave me and hid it from me(it was found in her room later on).
-Deleted photos of me from my boyfriend's camera. GOOD PHOTOS OF ME. She left weird ones on there like me with my tongue out, but removed 10 of them I was going to add to my myspace. How do I know? My boyfriend saw her and asked what she was doing. She said oops accidentally deleted some photos..It was not on purpose. They were all random places on the camera, not in order.

And 2 weeks back out of the blue, she stopped talking to me on aim, deleted me from myspace and blocked me on facebook.

Why is this? Is it jealousy? What could it be? I called her pretty, she said "thank you" but never calls me pretty ever. I complimented her on shirts and outfits, she once said, "i like your shirt but it's kinda unflattering for you"

I'm very hurt so please, please don't make more hurtful comments. You seriously do don't know me and how I am in person. I have dozens of friends who would laugh at someone if they called me conceited because they know I am not.

Thank you for taking the time to read this. I really appreciate it.

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Comments ( 21 )
  • iluvme22

    she's obviously jealous of you.

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  • kalish88

    She probably doesn't have any friends and ur taking away her best friend. By the sounds of it, I think she's jealous cause she thinks she won't find a guy because she is so insecure.

    don't get butt hurt over what people say. It's a post open to all comments. It also sounds like u get butt hurt to easily. The beat advice is to pick up a straw.... And suck it up. Lighten up and talk to him about it. Ask him to take her out on a date and have a brother and sister

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  • koifish

    Probably loves the brother. In a romantic way.

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  • ifonlyuknew247

    She's a jealous hater and needs to get:

    a.) psychological help
    b.) a life
    c.) the eff out of your and his business
    d.) over her ugly, effed up personality and
    e.) a clue about how transparent her defensive, childish projections of her own self-hatred and insecurity lashing out against you are diminishing her worth as a person in other people's eyes
    f.) a bf of her own to obsess/go psycho over and make miserable
    g.) laid
    h.) bent
    i.) all of the above

    The answer is i.) all of the above.

    Stay away from her toxic ass as much as possible, and clue in your bf about all the aspects of her psycho toxic ass. Make a plan with him to avoid her when you interact.

    The attacks against you are not personal, and she doesn't even know why she "hates" you, but it's eating her up inside that the only male forced to put up with her is now having the attention she used to have taken away by someone normal who actually makes him happy. She hates herself and is lashing out at you because you don't, and she thinks she can bully you and try to maybe make you a little bit as miserable, confused and self-loathing as she is inside. Don't let her - ONLY YOU have the power to "make" someone else's actions affect you emotionally - you have to let that person's negativity in first. Any and every moment you feel bad about something she did to you, SHE WINS, and she's not even there!

    Fuck that stupid, simple bitch. This same kind of thing has happened before to me several times in my life - not w/a bf's sister, but various haters, which you will encounter no matter what you do, and who will hate you and find something to hate about you no matter how nice you are to them. It's to avoid facing whatever ugliness they have in themselves and the bad, powerless feelings of sadness and victimization that come with it. It angers those people and they take it out on you, when you are completely innocent. She is passive-aggressive and needs mental help. Keep as far away from her as possible with your belongings and your self. If your brother doesn't speak to her or can't help you resolve the situation, try to make yourself more scarce around where she is. Eventually he will be motivated to help resolve the problem and have peace, or he will avoid her and go to you much more often, making her stew in her own filth of ugly projected self-loathing, but now left with *no* satisfaction or feeling of accomplishment from doing her passive-aggressive baby tantrum acts or being able to encounter you (even though she is scared of and quite intimidated by you, obviously) and maybe perceive she has hurt you in some way, she'll be forced to face the fact that she is a lonely bitch because no one likes her...because she's a bitch.

    Avoid her like the plague and forget about her, but be mindful and careful her psycho tricks don't get more serious. If they do, even a little bit, get a restraining order and tell the bitch to STAY, STAY (the fuck away) like the obedient dog she had better start acting like. You're a very patient and kind person to put up with this for the love of your bf. He's lucky to have you. If I were you, I believe some type of confrontation would have occurred already that would not have been a pleasant experience for her, to say the least.

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  • its normal its jealousy i think your boyfriend likes starting trouble for his sister and you he likes the arguments or something like that or he gets a joy from making his sister jealous of you.

    im half sorry but hurtful painful stuff makes me laugh thats just how i am and can't stop it im retarded.

    i would like to beat my sisters boyfriends ass right now how he treats other people and talks to her like he does hes just a skinny ass little worm that only thinks about his needs and wants hes a user a nobody worthless lazy fucker i've gotten sick of his ways that how he acts and uses people i might kick his ass out of the blue and hopefully that will wake his sleepy ass up and teach him something maybe for once pay a GD bill you know don't have others pay them for you

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  • sugarbunny772

    It's obviously jealousy.I would say she's doing that because she might be seeing how happy you two are together and isn't certain that she'll manage to find a guy that would make her happy in the same way.On the other hand,it could be him she's jealous of not you and she's doing all of these nasty things to ruin his happiness because she doesn't want to see him happy.Good luck,hope i helped.

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    • chewy

      Is that your pic on your profile?

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      • sugarbunny772

        yes it is.

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        • chewy

          You sexy :P

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          • sugarbunny772

            thanks =)

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  • vintagebeauty224

    thats not right and she shouldent get away with doing that, talk to your boyfriend about it or maybe you can talk to his sister and ask her why shes doing that. maybe shes just trying to fool around with you, dont take her personal and try not to let it get to you good luck :)

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  • combatgal856

    I hate hate comments too....why bother posting them? Anyways.

    Is she close to her brother, she might think you are 'stealing' him, or maybe she is seeking attention. It might not be from you, maybe from him, so he might need to spend more time with her, then maybe she may be more accepting towards you.

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  • chrissa114

    Sounds like she is jealous. Maybe she feels as though your taking her big brother away? She really needs to get over it though!!
    You sound like a beautiful person. Don't listen to any of the mean comments!!
    Maybe your boyfriend can ask his sister what is going on? I hope things get better soon!!

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  • kellstar

    Did he have another girlfriend b4 u that she did like or was friends with? It sounds
    like she is jealous but sometimes Ppl just decide to b mean and nasty for no reason, usually because of their own insecuritys. It's not nice when Ppl don't like us and we don't know y and it's harder when it's someone that u can't really avoid forever but hang in there and as long as u and your boyf r happy that's all that should matter! Maybe one day she will get over it and move on once she sees how happy u make him. If she is jealous of u though, she may not get over it in a hurry

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    • "Did he have another girlfriend b4 u that she did like or was friends with?" - She was okay with the girl before me from what I hear, but she wasn't close to her.

      Hm, thanks for the advice.

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  • McHammer

    she might just be having issues with missing her brother and feeling like ur taking him from her OR she just doesn't like you. either way she is enjoying this what does ur boyfriend say about it all

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    • He tries to avoid to her because he senses the hate from her to me and he hates it.

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