I assume the address you have is one she's given you, so maybe you have her address and maybe you don't.
If you're convinced you do know where she lives, if you're genuinely unhappy with the idea that this non-contact nonsense will continue indefinitely, and if you want to nudge things to the do-or-die point, consider this:
Identify a neutral public space such as a coffee shop, burger place, bookshop, or park near her home. (Not a restaurant, bar or club, since those are places people associate with dating.) Go there at a time when you know she'll be at home for one of your regular lengthy conversations. Call her on your cellphone. Tell her where you are, and say that while you understand she's worried, you're not happy for things to continue as they are forever, and if she truly cares about you and wants the relationship to continue, she'll come and meet you.
Like I've said before and others here have also said, there's a real possibility this situation will continue indefinitely. The more cynical people here think there's a good chance you're being played, but you're clearly convinced (or at least really want to believe) that she's genuine. Assuming you're right, she's currently in her comfort zone and, being human, she'd prefer to stay there. If you want to know what's really going on and if you possibly have a future together, you need to push the issue a little.
the address is correct , i also know where she works and her full schedule and basically every detail about her life , i dont think i will go there without telling her , i dont wanna put her under that much pressure
is this girl playing me ?
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I assume the address you have is one she's given you, so maybe you have her address and maybe you don't.
If you're convinced you do know where she lives, if you're genuinely unhappy with the idea that this non-contact nonsense will continue indefinitely, and if you want to nudge things to the do-or-die point, consider this:
Identify a neutral public space such as a coffee shop, burger place, bookshop, or park near her home. (Not a restaurant, bar or club, since those are places people associate with dating.) Go there at a time when you know she'll be at home for one of your regular lengthy conversations. Call her on your cellphone. Tell her where you are, and say that while you understand she's worried, you're not happy for things to continue as they are forever, and if she truly cares about you and wants the relationship to continue, she'll come and meet you.
Like I've said before and others here have also said, there's a real possibility this situation will continue indefinitely. The more cynical people here think there's a good chance you're being played, but you're clearly convinced (or at least really want to believe) that she's genuine. Assuming you're right, she's currently in her comfort zone and, being human, she'd prefer to stay there. If you want to know what's really going on and if you possibly have a future together, you need to push the issue a little.
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the address is correct , i also know where she works and her full schedule and basically every detail about her life , i dont think i will go there without telling her , i dont wanna put her under that much pressure