There is a difference in being self-deprecating in a "tongue and cheek" way and being unhappy to hating yourself. Because you truly cannot Love someone, long term, when you cannot love yourself.
He strikes me as a more extreme case of how I, myself, used to be from how you described him. "Your his world and your the best thing that ever happened to him" does that sound about right?
That is only half right from what it should be, his world should include himself too, just you.
With that sort of view he will most likely be doomed to strain the relationship more and more, because instead of improving himself he is putting all this eggs in your basket. But your improving yourself and he will be at a stand-still.
And as you move forwards in your life, he will pull harder and harder to "keep you", keep the person you are growing out of.
You guys need to grow as a couple, "Together" and to do so he needs to mature mentally and learn to basically chill.
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my comment wasnt directed toward you so much as your BF.
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There is a difference in being self-deprecating in a "tongue and cheek" way and being unhappy to hating yourself. Because you truly cannot Love someone, long term, when you cannot love yourself.
He strikes me as a more extreme case of how I, myself, used to be from how you described him. "Your his world and your the best thing that ever happened to him" does that sound about right?
That is only half right from what it should be, his world should include himself too, just you.
With that sort of view he will most likely be doomed to strain the relationship more and more, because instead of improving himself he is putting all this eggs in your basket. But your improving yourself and he will be at a stand-still.
And as you move forwards in your life, he will pull harder and harder to "keep you", keep the person you are growing out of.
You guys need to grow as a couple, "Together" and to do so he needs to mature mentally and learn to basically chill.
anywho, wish you guys the best