Gotta admit, the girl's got talent: she figured out you were a sucker and she played you well.
None of what you describe is acceptable behaviour. People who are incapable of switching off their phone and relating to others face to face are inconsiderate assholes. People who arrange a so-called date and then use their date as a chauffeur are users. People who suggest dinner and expect the other person to pay (you don't say this happened, but I assume it did) are parasites.
If she was aware of the lengths you had to go to in order to spend time with her, then that just makes all of the above even worse.
You have every right to be very annoyed about this and you need to accept that she is not a friend in any sense. If she should ever suggest another meeting, tell her she'll have to come to you because you're broke. I bet she'll immediately change the subject.
If I were you, I'd be trying to think of sneaky, deniable ways that I could make her WoW life less pleasant. But I can be a petty asshole when I feel I've been taken advantage of.
She was aware of the long drive + the day off. I was prepared to pay for everything as I knew her financial situation is much worse than mine (she’s still in school as she is a couple of years younger than me).
A fun fact was that when I got home, I saw that she had sent me some messages during the long drive. There was no thank you among those, neither any other word of gratitude. Instead, she suggested to take a train to my place and crash here for a week so I can bring her sightseeing in the west.
I politely declined saying that she’s most welcome to visit me for a day, but I won’t let a person I hardly know crash at my place.
I already know the outcome of what would had happened if I accepted her offer. I would be paying for all her meals and be her chauffeur for a whole week, while I barely get any attention due to her phone addiction.
Last time a person tried inviting themselves in my home I let them, they proceeded to try and kiss me while his newborn was sitting on my floor staring at us (I hate children) and I barley even knew the dude! Plus he took one look at my relatively expensive bed that I'm very fond of and was like well have to do something about that.
It was at that moment I knew I had zero interest in him. Plus when he tried to kiss me my first reaction was dodge! I latterly said nope without even thinking about it.
If I learned anything about this moment its that if someone try inviting themselves in thatbearly in a relationship they ain't worth it.
Took my boyfriend forever to learn that he's welcome over anytime (I'm like a stage 4 clinger lol) before that he wouldn't go near my place or make any suggestions about it unless I invited him in first.
Live and learn i guess. Its always worth waiting for a good one
While she had known me for quite some time online, she certainly didn’t know me in person (especially since she didn’t even make an effort to get to know me during my visit).
She certainly is bold and fearless, as there are many risks with being a girl in an unknown guy’s apartment. Not all guys are sensible, responsible and conservative like me.
Besides knowing that she would boss me around for an entire week, I also have a feeling that she’d act like a spoiled brat and mess up my apartment.
Like 9/10 likely she would treat your place like a hotel. Not to mentiom you know she wouldn't even put out. Im not saying sex is everything but if your doing shit like that i mean throw a dog a bone
Haha well thats good, I used to say the same then with my guy I wanted him before our first date haha. Its weird but I was just like yesssss with him. Hard to describe the feeling. But seriously good for you. Its better to be patient. Some girls are sketchy as heck to.
Is this an acceptable behavior during a date?
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Gotta admit, the girl's got talent: she figured out you were a sucker and she played you well.
None of what you describe is acceptable behaviour. People who are incapable of switching off their phone and relating to others face to face are inconsiderate assholes. People who arrange a so-called date and then use their date as a chauffeur are users. People who suggest dinner and expect the other person to pay (you don't say this happened, but I assume it did) are parasites.
If she was aware of the lengths you had to go to in order to spend time with her, then that just makes all of the above even worse.
You have every right to be very annoyed about this and you need to accept that she is not a friend in any sense. If she should ever suggest another meeting, tell her she'll have to come to you because you're broke. I bet she'll immediately change the subject.
If I were you, I'd be trying to think of sneaky, deniable ways that I could make her WoW life less pleasant. But I can be a petty asshole when I feel I've been taken advantage of.
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True, very true.
She was aware of the long drive + the day off. I was prepared to pay for everything as I knew her financial situation is much worse than mine (she’s still in school as she is a couple of years younger than me).
A fun fact was that when I got home, I saw that she had sent me some messages during the long drive. There was no thank you among those, neither any other word of gratitude. Instead, she suggested to take a train to my place and crash here for a week so I can bring her sightseeing in the west.
I politely declined saying that she’s most welcome to visit me for a day, but I won’t let a person I hardly know crash at my place.
I already know the outcome of what would had happened if I accepted her offer. I would be paying for all her meals and be her chauffeur for a whole week, while I barely get any attention due to her phone addiction.
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Not to mention the fact that when your back was turned, she would probably be stealing stuff.
Last time a person tried inviting themselves in my home I let them, they proceeded to try and kiss me while his newborn was sitting on my floor staring at us (I hate children) and I barley even knew the dude! Plus he took one look at my relatively expensive bed that I'm very fond of and was like well have to do something about that.
It was at that moment I knew I had zero interest in him. Plus when he tried to kiss me my first reaction was dodge! I latterly said nope without even thinking about it.
If I learned anything about this moment its that if someone try inviting themselves in thatbearly in a relationship they ain't worth it.
Took my boyfriend forever to learn that he's welcome over anytime (I'm like a stage 4 clinger lol) before that he wouldn't go near my place or make any suggestions about it unless I invited him in first.
Live and learn i guess. Its always worth waiting for a good one
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I fully agree with you on this!
While she had known me for quite some time online, she certainly didn’t know me in person (especially since she didn’t even make an effort to get to know me during my visit).
She certainly is bold and fearless, as there are many risks with being a girl in an unknown guy’s apartment. Not all guys are sensible, responsible and conservative like me.
Besides knowing that she would boss me around for an entire week, I also have a feeling that she’d act like a spoiled brat and mess up my apartment.
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Like 9/10 likely she would treat your place like a hotel. Not to mentiom you know she wouldn't even put out. Im not saying sex is everything but if your doing shit like that i mean throw a dog a bone
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She’d definitely treat it as a hotel with free food and private chauffeur.
I wouldn’t put out with a girl I just met anyway. I’m not that sort of guy. ☺️
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Haha well thats good, I used to say the same then with my guy I wanted him before our first date haha. Its weird but I was just like yesssss with him. Hard to describe the feeling. But seriously good for you. Its better to be patient. Some girls are sketchy as heck to.
Ugh, sounds so seedy. They could have at least got a fucking babysitter.
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right!? Less than ideal without a doubt. Kid had pretty eyes ill give it that though