They'll be babies etc for a good fuckin period of time. Their formative years, in fact.
You think it's good for a child's development to feel like they're a source of irritation (at best) to their parents during that time?
Sure, many if not most people who don't like kids usually love their own. But if I didn't like kids, that's not a gamble I'd want to take. Kids are needy as fuck. I spend my work day of 10-12 hrs catering to their needs as a stand in parent. It is physically, mentally and emotionally exhausting, being needed constantly. Having someone hanging off you constantly. Having to constantly anticipate and cater for their needs - not just the basic food, water, sleep, baths, but their developmental needs - providing an environment for them to learn and grow, answering their incessant questions, encouraging their engagement and interests. Playing repetitive, dumb games. If someone "doesn't like" kids, they're gonna have to dig fucking deep to keep up with that shit. And lots of people don't.
You have to change your entire life. Big ask if you don't even like kids.
Only "reason" someone needs not to have kids is "because". None of your fucking business.
I say this as someone who loves kids (mostly) and used to want kids then changed my mind.
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Pretty good reason, if you ask me.
They'll be babies etc for a good fuckin period of time. Their formative years, in fact.
You think it's good for a child's development to feel like they're a source of irritation (at best) to their parents during that time?
Sure, many if not most people who don't like kids usually love their own. But if I didn't like kids, that's not a gamble I'd want to take. Kids are needy as fuck. I spend my work day of 10-12 hrs catering to their needs as a stand in parent. It is physically, mentally and emotionally exhausting, being needed constantly. Having someone hanging off you constantly. Having to constantly anticipate and cater for their needs - not just the basic food, water, sleep, baths, but their developmental needs - providing an environment for them to learn and grow, answering their incessant questions, encouraging their engagement and interests. Playing repetitive, dumb games. If someone "doesn't like" kids, they're gonna have to dig fucking deep to keep up with that shit. And lots of people don't.
You have to change your entire life. Big ask if you don't even like kids.
Only "reason" someone needs not to have kids is "because". None of your fucking business.
I say this as someone who loves kids (mostly) and used to want kids then changed my mind.
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Those games! Omg, that's the most terrible part. At first you have fun but then you are bored and have to continue because baby is so happy.
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Hahahaha yup.
Peekaboo for hours a day, and they think it's fun for YEARS.
Doing dumb shit to make kids laugh is fun...until you have to repeat it a million times...
How old is your little one?
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26 months. I'm going crazy! Lol
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Awwww hehe. Yeah, it's not easy.
Cute age for the most part, though.
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Yeah, he's trying to do everything by himself and hates it when we try to help. It's exhausting and so satisfying.
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Autonomy will drive parents crazy.
"No! Me do it!" Is great...except when you're in a hurry and they refuse to let you do it.
And that is when I say, fine. Go to daycare in your pajamas. I don't care.
Those games! Omg, that's the most terrible part. At first you have fun but then you are bored and have to continue because baby is having so happy.