He is Insecure for sure.
I think the cause of this could be your not showing enough affection or NOT HAVING SEX WITH HIM or NOT BEING SEXUAL WITH HIM.
He doesn't seem like a guy with lots of experience but you should know that when a girl is not intimate with us sexually, especially after a long time, we actually perceive it as rejection(!!). Also, they are different ways that people perceive love.
When he says love he probably means that he would put his head into fire for you or even that he would like marry u in time(!!). Girls, possibly because they are more confident and wouldn't mind that much dumping a guy, as a guy would mind dumping a girl, behave in a way that we do not perceive as love. For men true love means responsibility for one and complete sacrifice for two(that when we do get to love somebody which can be hard if we've had our feelings hurt many times).
Women many times have a thing about sacrificing things for their partner...
Also i think your bf has this idiotic mindset that many insecure men have, that if they dump one girl they won't find another
So i think your guy suffers from a combination of fear of being dumped, being hurt(through cheating) and you know, as i said before, insecure guys always feel like this "If we break up there will be some rich handsome kickass guy that will hit on her. But me, will i be able to find someone?" So fear, fear, fear is the answer. And he certainly feels he is less attractive than you or even that he doesn't deserve you(OR even that he sucks in getting laid XD). Dunno.
If though you believe that none of the above apply for your guy then you should DUMP HIM. If the above do apply then well, see what else u can do, try to see what things cause these reactions. Try to see what little things that u do or say REALLY have an affect on him. Sometimes we are unwilling to accept that something that we do annoys our partner, either because we do it all the time and we consider it normal or because we don't feel like changing ourselves for him/her. There are some little things that everyone for some reason thinks "this is part of personality, like it or not that's how I am". So just get a psychology degree and fix your relationship :-)
Is this a normal "relationship"?
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He is Insecure for sure.
I think the cause of this could be your not showing enough affection or NOT HAVING SEX WITH HIM or NOT BEING SEXUAL WITH HIM.
He doesn't seem like a guy with lots of experience but you should know that when a girl is not intimate with us sexually, especially after a long time, we actually perceive it as rejection(!!). Also, they are different ways that people perceive love.
When he says love he probably means that he would put his head into fire for you or even that he would like marry u in time(!!). Girls, possibly because they are more confident and wouldn't mind that much dumping a guy, as a guy would mind dumping a girl, behave in a way that we do not perceive as love. For men true love means responsibility for one and complete sacrifice for two(that when we do get to love somebody which can be hard if we've had our feelings hurt many times).
Women many times have a thing about sacrificing things for their partner...
Also i think your bf has this idiotic mindset that many insecure men have, that if they dump one girl they won't find another
So i think your guy suffers from a combination of fear of being dumped, being hurt(through cheating) and you know, as i said before, insecure guys always feel like this "If we break up there will be some rich handsome kickass guy that will hit on her. But me, will i be able to find someone?" So fear, fear, fear is the answer. And he certainly feels he is less attractive than you or even that he doesn't deserve you(OR even that he sucks in getting laid XD). Dunno.
If though you believe that none of the above apply for your guy then you should DUMP HIM. If the above do apply then well, see what else u can do, try to see what things cause these reactions. Try to see what little things that u do or say REALLY have an affect on him. Sometimes we are unwilling to accept that something that we do annoys our partner, either because we do it all the time and we consider it normal or because we don't feel like changing ourselves for him/her. There are some little things that everyone for some reason thinks "this is part of personality, like it or not that's how I am". So just get a psychology degree and fix your relationship :-)