Not normal. I wouldn't jump to conclusions and assume that he must be doing things behind your back, but it's a possibility. If I were you, I'd tell him that you expect the same trust that you give him in return and that if he doesn't stop being so controlling, you're going to have to go your own ways. You probably don't want to break up with him but do you really want to live that way forever? And it would only get worse if you got married. It's very disrespectful of him to project his distrust of his father onto you, especially since you sound like a really good girlfriend. I'd be very offended if I were you.
An ex of mine was the same way. He always though I wanted other dudes, he assumed every guy I talked to I wanted to screw. I had to walk on eggshells all the time because he was the type who thought I had no business speaking to any other male besides him. He didn't like where I worked because guys worked there, he didn't let me go out of the house in a tank top because it was too revealing and he didn't want other dudes checking me out. He'd get mad at me if someone else checked me out or flirted with me, even though I had nothing to do with it. His insecurity was so annoying and unattractive that eventually I did fall in love with someone else and I left him. He quickly admitted that he didn't blame me and that he drove me away. Anyways, you need to lay down the law with this guy. It's not your fault that he has trust issues and you shouldn't have to deal with it at all. He needs to know that he can't go on pushing away everyone who cares about him so that he can fulfill his irrational belief that everyone will eventually abandon or betray him. Don't put up with it, you're way too good for that.
Is this a normal "relationship"?
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Not normal. I wouldn't jump to conclusions and assume that he must be doing things behind your back, but it's a possibility. If I were you, I'd tell him that you expect the same trust that you give him in return and that if he doesn't stop being so controlling, you're going to have to go your own ways. You probably don't want to break up with him but do you really want to live that way forever? And it would only get worse if you got married. It's very disrespectful of him to project his distrust of his father onto you, especially since you sound like a really good girlfriend. I'd be very offended if I were you.
An ex of mine was the same way. He always though I wanted other dudes, he assumed every guy I talked to I wanted to screw. I had to walk on eggshells all the time because he was the type who thought I had no business speaking to any other male besides him. He didn't like where I worked because guys worked there, he didn't let me go out of the house in a tank top because it was too revealing and he didn't want other dudes checking me out. He'd get mad at me if someone else checked me out or flirted with me, even though I had nothing to do with it. His insecurity was so annoying and unattractive that eventually I did fall in love with someone else and I left him. He quickly admitted that he didn't blame me and that he drove me away. Anyways, you need to lay down the law with this guy. It's not your fault that he has trust issues and you shouldn't have to deal with it at all. He needs to know that he can't go on pushing away everyone who cares about him so that he can fulfill his irrational belief that everyone will eventually abandon or betray him. Don't put up with it, you're way too good for that.