Ok, I'll give you some serious advice.
-There's a girl in the cafeteria you find pretty.
-As difficult as it may be, forget about sex.
-Ask her if she minds if you sit near her.
-Pretend it's a guy that you'd like to be friends with.
-Talk about anything, keep the conversation light.
-You'll see by her reactions if she finds you funny, or amusing.
-Maybe you'll find her boring, dumb, or uninteresting. You won't know until you strike up a conversation,
-The important thing is to just see if you have a basic connection.Don't expect much more. It's not a race.
-Now you'll be relaxed enough to approach her again in the hall, on campus, or cafeteria to strike up another conversation. If you have a shared interest like collecting dung beetles, you can offer to go see the university's collection of beetles with her.
-Live for the moment. If asking her something feels forced, chances are it will come out that way.
-If nothing comes of it maybe you'll just have made another friend.
-Keep in mind that you aren't limited to talking to only her. You can be friendly with other women too. It's all a matter of friendly conversation and being perceptive of how warmly others respond. It's okay to make mistakes. You're only human.
That's rather helpful man thanks. The don't think about sex part is pretty hard for me but I know I need to how. How then would you suggest I "escalate" the situation?
After talking to her you'll already find out if she's warming up to you and may be receptive. You'll also find out if you have any shared interests. Then you can ask her to a shared interest event or just ask if she'd like to continue your conversation out sometime, like coffee, a walk or see what she suggests. Like I said, it's not a race. Do what feels natural, not forced. It comes from within. What your feeling at a given moment. There are times in life when NOT escalating the situation is what feels the most un-natural and or awkward.
There is no "plan" that works with all women. They aren't like a one-size-fits-all. That's the whole point of getting to know them individually. Jus like men, but with vaginas.
Yeah everyone says natural but a pot of times what feels natural is adding for sex once she shows interest. In the past with women I don't think I ever got to a point where it would be awkward not to escalate.
If you spend more time just making friends with women and hanging out with women, sooner or later one you only see as a friend will be interested in more and you can then decide what you want to do. There really are no sure-fire answers to dating situations. It's all hit & miss and what feels right for you.
Is this a good way to approach women or is it too creepy?
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Ok, I'll give you some serious advice.
-There's a girl in the cafeteria you find pretty.
-As difficult as it may be, forget about sex.
-Ask her if she minds if you sit near her.
-Pretend it's a guy that you'd like to be friends with.
-Talk about anything, keep the conversation light.
-You'll see by her reactions if she finds you funny, or amusing.
-Maybe you'll find her boring, dumb, or uninteresting. You won't know until you strike up a conversation,
-The important thing is to just see if you have a basic connection.Don't expect much more. It's not a race.
-Now you'll be relaxed enough to approach her again in the hall, on campus, or cafeteria to strike up another conversation. If you have a shared interest like collecting dung beetles, you can offer to go see the university's collection of beetles with her.
-Live for the moment. If asking her something feels forced, chances are it will come out that way.
-If nothing comes of it maybe you'll just have made another friend.
-Keep in mind that you aren't limited to talking to only her. You can be friendly with other women too. It's all a matter of friendly conversation and being perceptive of how warmly others respond. It's okay to make mistakes. You're only human.
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That's rather helpful man thanks. The don't think about sex part is pretty hard for me but I know I need to how. How then would you suggest I "escalate" the situation?
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After talking to her you'll already find out if she's warming up to you and may be receptive. You'll also find out if you have any shared interests. Then you can ask her to a shared interest event or just ask if she'd like to continue your conversation out sometime, like coffee, a walk or see what she suggests. Like I said, it's not a race. Do what feels natural, not forced. It comes from within. What your feeling at a given moment. There are times in life when NOT escalating the situation is what feels the most un-natural and or awkward.
There is no "plan" that works with all women. They aren't like a one-size-fits-all. That's the whole point of getting to know them individually. Jus like men, but with vaginas.
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Yeah everyone says natural but a pot of times what feels natural is adding for sex once she shows interest. In the past with women I don't think I ever got to a point where it would be awkward not to escalate.
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If you spend more time just making friends with women and hanging out with women, sooner or later one you only see as a friend will be interested in more and you can then decide what you want to do. There really are no sure-fire answers to dating situations. It's all hit & miss and what feels right for you.
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I know it's just that that's precisely my problem. What feels natural is only really sex. I think I need more practice.