Is this a good sign?

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My best friend and I tried to date, we broke up because we argued a lot but we went back to being best friends. I love him and wanted to get back together so I asked a few times since then but he always says we can't get back together because it was too much work and we argued a lot

But I've been missing him a lot so I decided to watch the movie My Best Friend's Wedding. I have no idea what the ending is if it's sad or happy but I just put it on because I wanted a good romance about a friend trying to get back with her best friend because I love him so much

Anyway while I'm watching the movie, out of the blue when I didn't text him, I get a text from him, my best friend and he wrote "I miss us. I wish we were a couple again"

Do you think this is a sign we could get back together some day?

Sorry I know this is not a typical post on this website but you guys give good advice and responses so it would be nice to know if you think this is a good sign or not

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Somenormie

3 years ago

It sounds like he wants to be with you despite past arguments.

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radar

3 years ago

I don't know about "signs," but it sounds like you both want to be together, so maybe you should try.

I feel sheepish and hypocritical trying to give relationship advice, that said I think if you don't (together and with equal sincerity) look at your issues and try to figure out what went wrong and what you are going to do differently going forward, you'll end up back in the same ditch you were in before.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  3 years ago
  
  Yeah true I think if we try again this time I'm going to try and make it so we communicate our feelings better before it gets to arguing
  
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S0UNDS_WEIRD

3 years ago

Go for it. You want it and now he does. A little arguing is normal and relationships can take work.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  3 years ago
  
  Thanks I think I will try again!
  
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ellnell

3 years ago

I've been in the EXACT same situation....
It didn't end well we haven't talked for years now unfortunately. Tread carefully here it's very likely to not go well if you've already argued a lot. That tends to be a sign you're too different and friendship CAN still work really well but if feelings get mixed in and both of you on top of that know that you are incompatible it can just explode because it gets so complicated and confusing.
All I can say is communicate and do it well... Don't be vague any of you just really talk things through.

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olderdude-xx

3 years ago

There are reasons that both of you were together initially: something about your personalities and life matching; and reasons you argued which is often lack of understanding or ability to properly communicate.

I suggest that you both read:

The 5 Love Languages, by: Gary Chapman

How to Win Friends & Influence People in the Digital Age, by Dale Carnegie & Associates

(or the original How to Win Friends & Influence People, by Dale Carnegie if you live in a country that does not have the modern update: It has been translated into many languages of the world).

While there are many other useful books; these two have very basic foundation concepts and principals on which most of the other books are built upon.

I wish you the best,

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  3 years ago
  
  thanks! I'll read that. Yeah I was drawn to him because of his heart, personality and mind and he says the same about me. we actually don't have a lot in common lol but we can laugh at anything together and just enjoy each other's company so that's something good
  
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notdonaldtrump

3 years ago

you are acting like "BEING TOO NEEDY" and trust me ; no one likes NEEDY PERSONALITY .
i was taught ;
if u want someone to get rid from:start acting too needy...the person will think u r sick and will leave you...
u better try something different.
good luck sweetie,

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  3 years ago
  
  Um.. what?
  
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BoraxSnorlax

3 years ago

I’ll tell ya the ending...she gives up and shows him support for his new relationship. The biggest mistake I’ve made in life was chasing a girl after the relationship ended. I made a new rule, we break up once, it’s over. Period. Trust me, it will save you a lot of hurt.

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JJvinal22

3 years ago

Go for it! Arguing is perfectly normal in a relationship but I think it depends on what you guys are arguing about. If the arguments are based on really trivial things then I would say that might be a red flag but who knows.

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a-curious-bunny

3 years ago

Didn't you just post this like 2 days ago?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  3 years ago
  
  Definitely not. Did someone post something similar? Lol
  
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