If you think deeper, there's actually no such thing as a selfless act. Even if it appears to be 'for others' at first, ultimately it will benefit you in some way.
I've done many things for other people that have not benefitted me in any way whatsoever. In fact, sometimes I look back and get angry with myself for being taken advantage of. A friend almost destroyed me when she said, "Before you do someone a favour ask yourself 'would they do it for me?' If the answer is 'no' then don't do it for them." Aaarrrrggggggggghhhhhhh!!!! I came to a stop!!
I couldn't live like that so had to stop asking it of myself.
Have you seen the film "Pay it Forward"? It's a way to change the world. I loved it.
I am also a mother and wonder what you think I was going to gain out of this .....
When I was 8 months pregnant I spent a month in hospital with complications. The hospital wanted to scan me for a blood clot by injecting radio-active solution into my foot, and then x-raying me. When I asked about the baby, they said they would TRY to protect it with a lead blanket.
TRY!!??? Oh no you won't!!! My child was not going to receive anything radio-active, nor would he be x-rayed in case I lost him, but the risk was that I would die. To me that was better than losing my son. I made my husband promise to look after him should I die, and I refused treatment. He was premature and his lungs hadn't developed but we both lived, i let them scan me after the birth and yes I'd a clot in my leg.
Is there such a thing as a truly selfless act?
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If you think deeper, there's actually no such thing as a selfless act. Even if it appears to be 'for others' at first, ultimately it will benefit you in some way.
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I've done many things for other people that have not benefitted me in any way whatsoever. In fact, sometimes I look back and get angry with myself for being taken advantage of. A friend almost destroyed me when she said, "Before you do someone a favour ask yourself 'would they do it for me?' If the answer is 'no' then don't do it for them." Aaarrrrggggggggghhhhhhh!!!! I came to a stop!!
I couldn't live like that so had to stop asking it of myself.
Have you seen the film "Pay it Forward"? It's a way to change the world. I loved it.
I am also a mother and wonder what you think I was going to gain out of this .....
When I was 8 months pregnant I spent a month in hospital with complications. The hospital wanted to scan me for a blood clot by injecting radio-active solution into my foot, and then x-raying me. When I asked about the baby, they said they would TRY to protect it with a lead blanket.
TRY!!??? Oh no you won't!!! My child was not going to receive anything radio-active, nor would he be x-rayed in case I lost him, but the risk was that I would die. To me that was better than losing my son. I made my husband promise to look after him should I die, and I refused treatment. He was premature and his lungs hadn't developed but we both lived, i let them scan me after the birth and yes I'd a clot in my leg.
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You did it so YOUR baby wouldn't get hurt because YOU didn't want him to.
I don't understand how every1 cant see that somewhere in there, there is an element of self however small.
That is not bad thing its just a fact we do nice things cose it benefits the world and our well being.
Buddhists call it Karma