May I quickly also add that I do a selfless act every weekend. I've just split from my husband due to one too many domestic abuse incidences. Each weekend my two children see him and every morning bafore he arrives I talk about how exciting it is that he's coming and that he's so excited to see them. I create a positive environment for my kids and support them with the changes we have recently incurred due to him moving out by talking positively about him and acting as if I like him even though it makes me sick to the stomach to do so. What do I get out of this? Nothing other than the fact I know its the right thing to do.
That's not selfless because you're pretending for your children with the intention of making your children's upbringing happier, because if you were to see your children miserable that would make YOU miserable.
In other words, you're doing it for your children because that makes you feel good. The fact that you've posted your act up here just goes to show you are proud of your actions, indicating very clearly you gain gratification from doing it.
It's not a selfless act and if you think it is, you're in denial.
...AND I do it because it's the right thing to do. Because my daughter is only three years old, has Down Syndrome, had open heart surgery at three months old and has struggled to do absolutely EVERYTHING that 'normal' people take for granted. Like eating for example, I'm sure you find it easy to chew and swallow your food. Imagine having to learn how to chew and swallow because you've been dying for the first six months of your life and have been fed through a tube. I do it because my daughter has been through enough and doesn't dererve to now feel abandoned by her father.
Some people live wonderful cushtee little lives where they don't understand that somethings you just do because it's the right thing to do. I don't want a pat on the back, feeling 'Proud' is the last emotion I have felt since seperating for my husband, I just wanted to convince you that the act existed.
Not convinced that you have dis proven his point. You say that you do it to keep YOUR child happy to stop her suffering because YOU think its right and YOU wouldn't want her to grow up without a dad.
I think what you do is amazing but i think a little bit of self awareness in every act. Its probz like 99% Selfless and 1% self
Is there such a thing as a truly selfless act?
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May I quickly also add that I do a selfless act every weekend. I've just split from my husband due to one too many domestic abuse incidences. Each weekend my two children see him and every morning bafore he arrives I talk about how exciting it is that he's coming and that he's so excited to see them. I create a positive environment for my kids and support them with the changes we have recently incurred due to him moving out by talking positively about him and acting as if I like him even though it makes me sick to the stomach to do so. What do I get out of this? Nothing other than the fact I know its the right thing to do.
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That's not selfless because you're pretending for your children with the intention of making your children's upbringing happier, because if you were to see your children miserable that would make YOU miserable.
In other words, you're doing it for your children because that makes you feel good. The fact that you've posted your act up here just goes to show you are proud of your actions, indicating very clearly you gain gratification from doing it.
It's not a selfless act and if you think it is, you're in denial.
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Trust me....I am miserable!!!!
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...AND I do it because it's the right thing to do. Because my daughter is only three years old, has Down Syndrome, had open heart surgery at three months old and has struggled to do absolutely EVERYTHING that 'normal' people take for granted. Like eating for example, I'm sure you find it easy to chew and swallow your food. Imagine having to learn how to chew and swallow because you've been dying for the first six months of your life and have been fed through a tube. I do it because my daughter has been through enough and doesn't dererve to now feel abandoned by her father.
Some people live wonderful cushtee little lives where they don't understand that somethings you just do because it's the right thing to do. I don't want a pat on the back, feeling 'Proud' is the last emotion I have felt since seperating for my husband, I just wanted to convince you that the act existed.
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Not convinced that you have dis proven his point. You say that you do it to keep YOUR child happy to stop her suffering because YOU think its right and YOU wouldn't want her to grow up without a dad.
I think what you do is amazing but i think a little bit of self awareness in every act. Its probz like 99% Selfless and 1% self