Is the girl i'm with actually a rebound relationship?

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I was with my previous partner for several years but the last year of our relationship I had to move 3 hours away for a new job promotion and she couldn't leave her work. I had to take the promotion and we knew she was going to find a job in my new town but not for a bit. The long distance was difficult and was the reason I had to break up with her. I felt so lonely.

I ended up meeting someone else and she made me feel better. She was happy,fun,carefree so I got with her after 2 months and have been with her a year now but I still feel like somethings missing and sometimes at night when she's out, I feel this emptiness and I question if I'm in the right relationship.

She's fun and she keeps me busy but I still after a year think about my previous partner and sometimes wish I could talk to her. I guess I miss her but that's probably normal right? But this girl I'm with now she's always hyper, always leading me here and there and I feel like after a year I should know her better and I don't. I enjoy being with her though and I have feelings of love for her but I don't know if they're right...I told my friend all this and he said he thinks I'm stuck in a rebound.

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    That sounds exactly like a rebound relationship. Life, and love is about more than what other people can do to make you happy. I think you should have taken more time to better know this person, before getting together with her. I think on a very real level you are just using her to fill a void left in your heart when you choose to breakup with your ex. I think you would do well to be single, and work on yourself.

    How long were you in a long distance relationship with your ex before you decided to breakup?

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    • curious-bunny
      5 years ago

      This happened to a good friend of mine, the guy she was dating broke up with her for that. She crushed for a bit yes but she understood, well he's finally moved on and there back together and very happy, happier than before really. It's quite nice to see. You owe it to yourself and her happiness that you end things, tell her your feelings and then tell her you can't be woth her cause of part of you is still caught on your ex and she in no way a deserves that. You hope you will continue to be friends and hope someday maybe to give you another go when you can properly be her partner the partner she deserves

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  • litelander8
    5 years ago

    Bad pancake.

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  • LloydAsher
    5 years ago

    Guys are easier at rebounding and getting over a breakup. Females on the other hand have to fix their broken connections, and you are the tools she is using to figure out what was cut.

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