Attention parents who don't know better: your child does something you don't like. You hit them thinking it will teach them not to behave that way anymore. Here are the mixed messages you are sending:
*when I don't like something, it's ok for me to hit.
*I can't trust the person who is supposed to be keeping me safe
*fear is instilled which will teach them to do the behavior, but just to try not to get caught. So your helping them to become manipulative and deceptive.
*instilling fear is a temporary solution.
TRY THIS INSTEAD:
* communicate firmly, with an authoritative tone, at their eye level what they have done that you don't like. Explain why it osnt OK. Ask them if they understand. Give them option for how to better handle a situation next time. Give them problem solving skills. Ie: "next time you're upset with your sister, take some deep breaths, or find another activity to do, or come ask me for help, but it's never ok to take her toy away from her."
*this way she knows why you are unhappy with what she did, and she has some better choices for problem solving net time.
IF WE TEACH OUR CHILDREN PROBLEM SOLVING SKILLS, THEY WILL BE HAPPY ADULTS. IF WE TEACH THEM TO FEAR US AND TO HIT WHEN THEY'RE MAD, THEY WILL BE UNHAPPY ADULTS.
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Attention parents who don't know better: your child does something you don't like. You hit them thinking it will teach them not to behave that way anymore. Here are the mixed messages you are sending:
*when I don't like something, it's ok for me to hit.
*I can't trust the person who is supposed to be keeping me safe
*fear is instilled which will teach them to do the behavior, but just to try not to get caught. So your helping them to become manipulative and deceptive.
*instilling fear is a temporary solution.
TRY THIS INSTEAD:
* communicate firmly, with an authoritative tone, at their eye level what they have done that you don't like. Explain why it osnt OK. Ask them if they understand. Give them option for how to better handle a situation next time. Give them problem solving skills. Ie: "next time you're upset with your sister, take some deep breaths, or find another activity to do, or come ask me for help, but it's never ok to take her toy away from her."
*this way she knows why you are unhappy with what she did, and she has some better choices for problem solving net time.
IF WE TEACH OUR CHILDREN PROBLEM SOLVING SKILLS, THEY WILL BE HAPPY ADULTS. IF WE TEACH THEM TO FEAR US AND TO HIT WHEN THEY'RE MAD, THEY WILL BE UNHAPPY ADULTS.
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MahBoi24
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Yeah, how about not being a pretentious ass, and stop telling people how to raise their own damn kids?