Hold on: are you saying you accidentally cut in front of the guy in a line, and when he pointed this out, you apologised, but didn't let him go before you?
If that's what happened, your apology carried about as much weight as those of people who "apologise" for causing offence, when what they should be doing is apologising for being dickheads by nature and promising that they'll take a long look at themselves and try to do better in future.
If you were already in the middle of being served when your mistake was pointed out, then that's different, and the guy's reaction is possibly unreasonable. However, I'm sure he experiences just as much rudeness in his life as you do in yours, and sometimes that results in people having a very jaded view of humanity (just as you apparently do). So it's understandable how he might take your apology as less than genuine and refuse to accept you made an honest mistake.
Maybe he was just having a bad day, or maybe you were the fifth person in a row he'd encountered who had done something impolite, and he was just fed up.
I was looking for a place to park yesterday and was about to drive into a space, when a boy-racer asshat driving a car that he obviously lavishes attention on zipped around the corner and took the space. I'm normally a very calm guy, but after I eventually found a space, I walked back to where he'd parked with the sharpest key on my key-ring between my knuckles. There were a lot of people wandering around the area when I found his car, so I didn't actually do anything, but his pretty little car very nearly got a deep gouge from rear light cluster to the headlights. Afterwards, I was happy I didn't do it, but at the time...
Sometimes, lots of little things accumulate and push us over the edge.
Sorry for my confusion. If you let him go ahead after he pointed out your mistake and you apologised more than once but he just ignored you, then, yeah, the guy is most definitely a dick.
Who knows? Another possibility is that he's the sort of dick who (consciously or unconsciously) sets up situations where he can feel aggrieved - in this case, by positioning himself so it wasn't immediately obvious he was waiting. That's the entitled, whiny, drama-queen strain of Homo dickus.
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Hold on: are you saying you accidentally cut in front of the guy in a line, and when he pointed this out, you apologised, but didn't let him go before you?
If that's what happened, your apology carried about as much weight as those of people who "apologise" for causing offence, when what they should be doing is apologising for being dickheads by nature and promising that they'll take a long look at themselves and try to do better in future.
If you were already in the middle of being served when your mistake was pointed out, then that's different, and the guy's reaction is possibly unreasonable. However, I'm sure he experiences just as much rudeness in his life as you do in yours, and sometimes that results in people having a very jaded view of humanity (just as you apparently do). So it's understandable how he might take your apology as less than genuine and refuse to accept you made an honest mistake.
Maybe he was just having a bad day, or maybe you were the fifth person in a row he'd encountered who had done something impolite, and he was just fed up.
I was looking for a place to park yesterday and was about to drive into a space, when a boy-racer asshat driving a car that he obviously lavishes attention on zipped around the corner and took the space. I'm normally a very calm guy, but after I eventually found a space, I walked back to where he'd parked with the sharpest key on my key-ring between my knuckles. There were a lot of people wandering around the area when I found his car, so I didn't actually do anything, but his pretty little car very nearly got a deep gouge from rear light cluster to the headlights. Afterwards, I was happy I didn't do it, but at the time...
Sometimes, lots of little things accumulate and push us over the edge.
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I DID let him go before me. My second apology was after the clerk already helped him, and I hadn't been helped yet.
Your last 3 paragraphs did make a lot of sense though.
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Sorry for my confusion. If you let him go ahead after he pointed out your mistake and you apologised more than once but he just ignored you, then, yeah, the guy is most definitely a dick.
Who knows? Another possibility is that he's the sort of dick who (consciously or unconsciously) sets up situations where he can feel aggrieved - in this case, by positioning himself so it wasn't immediately obvious he was waiting. That's the entitled, whiny, drama-queen strain of Homo dickus.
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Yes that's what he was. It's ok about the confusion, don't worry about that.