It is totally normal. From my experience once you get over the anxiety of jealousy - and you will over time - the experience will be absolutely fantastic. And if you are worried about ruining your relationship - don't. From my experience it will not only elevate the sensual/sexual side to a new level, but will make the relationship much stronger. This could be part due to the fact, that when you engage in such a fantasy, it will require building a very strong trust relationship between you and your wife/gf. This trust, in turn, will act like a glue in all other aspects of your life.
In my case it contributed to a totally new level of sex life, made me a much more sensual person in bed and changed my relations to her outside of the bedroom. I say so many more nice words to her now, then before all of this started. BTW, we are together for 20 years now.
My wife is a tall, slim, gorgeous beauty with dark long hair. She has first met another guy about 12 years ago, after many of my delicate suggestions. I had to leave on a work assignment to another city and was only coming home about twice per month. My suggestions and her loneliness probably played part in it, and she met the guy who was hitting on her for some time. They did it when I was away and she recorded it with a hidden cam. My emotions that first time were ranging from total jealousy to extreme erotic arousal. I felt happy one time and lonely/almost betrayed another. But it was like a drug. I liked it so much. Have never before experienced such sexual intensity and arousal.
She did it several more times with this guy over a number of months. Then she stopped for a few years - work, kids, busy life. With my suggestions she went back to the lifestyle. Put adds on singles sites etc. She started meeting guys and the more it was happening the more my emotions were shifting away from jealousy to sensuality, arousal, love for her.
We are a so much better couple now. We used to argue and be nasty to each other a lot more often before this started happening. Now, we barely argue ever. I am more relaxed and I feel that my love to her is on par or better than when me met for the first time.
She is seeing a guy now, that will go through the whole night with her. Last time she had three orgasms during the night, and then they did it again twice in the morning. This guy is incredible. He is so nice and sensual to her and makes her go to new levels with sexual arousal. She brings these new levels back home, where it really makes a difference in our sex life.
BTW, she recorded video only twice. She prefers to have privacy with a guy. Makes her more at ease and enjoy the whole thing way better. However, she agreed to use a little voice recorder if she can in a given situation. Let me tell you. The sound recordings are even better than the video. My mind is discovering the levels of sensuality and emotions I never new existed in me. Probably the imagination adds to it, since I don't see the video.
She would not feel comfortable with a threesome or if I was watching life. I don't know if I would not feel awkward just siting there and watching. Instead, I prefer to let my imagination go loose when she is doing it and then listen to the recording afterwards.
Is normal for mewanting to see my wife with another man having sex ?
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It is totally normal. From my experience once you get over the anxiety of jealousy - and you will over time - the experience will be absolutely fantastic. And if you are worried about ruining your relationship - don't. From my experience it will not only elevate the sensual/sexual side to a new level, but will make the relationship much stronger. This could be part due to the fact, that when you engage in such a fantasy, it will require building a very strong trust relationship between you and your wife/gf. This trust, in turn, will act like a glue in all other aspects of your life.
In my case it contributed to a totally new level of sex life, made me a much more sensual person in bed and changed my relations to her outside of the bedroom. I say so many more nice words to her now, then before all of this started. BTW, we are together for 20 years now.
My wife is a tall, slim, gorgeous beauty with dark long hair. She has first met another guy about 12 years ago, after many of my delicate suggestions. I had to leave on a work assignment to another city and was only coming home about twice per month. My suggestions and her loneliness probably played part in it, and she met the guy who was hitting on her for some time. They did it when I was away and she recorded it with a hidden cam. My emotions that first time were ranging from total jealousy to extreme erotic arousal. I felt happy one time and lonely/almost betrayed another. But it was like a drug. I liked it so much. Have never before experienced such sexual intensity and arousal.
She did it several more times with this guy over a number of months. Then she stopped for a few years - work, kids, busy life. With my suggestions she went back to the lifestyle. Put adds on singles sites etc. She started meeting guys and the more it was happening the more my emotions were shifting away from jealousy to sensuality, arousal, love for her.
We are a so much better couple now. We used to argue and be nasty to each other a lot more often before this started happening. Now, we barely argue ever. I am more relaxed and I feel that my love to her is on par or better than when me met for the first time.
She is seeing a guy now, that will go through the whole night with her. Last time she had three orgasms during the night, and then they did it again twice in the morning. This guy is incredible. He is so nice and sensual to her and makes her go to new levels with sexual arousal. She brings these new levels back home, where it really makes a difference in our sex life.
BTW, she recorded video only twice. She prefers to have privacy with a guy. Makes her more at ease and enjoy the whole thing way better. However, she agreed to use a little voice recorder if she can in a given situation. Let me tell you. The sound recordings are even better than the video. My mind is discovering the levels of sensuality and emotions I never new existed in me. Probably the imagination adds to it, since I don't see the video.
She would not feel comfortable with a threesome or if I was watching life. I don't know if I would not feel awkward just siting there and watching. Instead, I prefer to let my imagination go loose when she is doing it and then listen to the recording afterwards.
Best of luck to all of you.