Good point, but that's only for the person who is having trouble moving on.
What if you're the person who already has moved on, yet the ex doesn't want to let go? My closest friend in the world went through this last June. Even months later, she thought she could go out for coffee with him as "just friends" and he still ended up interpreting it as more and it inspired further hope in him. Now she wants nothing to do with him because he has no control over himself. He's in his 30s, yet his inability/refusal to move on shows his lack of maturity and self-control. Ugh, my poor friend, now she has to be a total bitch to him to get rid of him.
This is not my poll, but I think both perspectives need to be considered, no?
It's definitely just for the person who was heartbroken because I think that's what the poll was trying to discuss, but that's an interesting point that requires a separate solution.
How candid was she with this guy? I don't think she has to be a bitch - honesty doesn't have to mean malice. It's a tough situation because it's the other party that has to learn from this and mature, but I think there are certainly better ways to help him (and herself) with that than avoidance or bitchiness.
Is no contact the best solution to move on?
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Good point, but that's only for the person who is having trouble moving on.
What if you're the person who already has moved on, yet the ex doesn't want to let go? My closest friend in the world went through this last June. Even months later, she thought she could go out for coffee with him as "just friends" and he still ended up interpreting it as more and it inspired further hope in him. Now she wants nothing to do with him because he has no control over himself. He's in his 30s, yet his inability/refusal to move on shows his lack of maturity and self-control. Ugh, my poor friend, now she has to be a total bitch to him to get rid of him.
This is not my poll, but I think both perspectives need to be considered, no?
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It's definitely just for the person who was heartbroken because I think that's what the poll was trying to discuss, but that's an interesting point that requires a separate solution.
How candid was she with this guy? I don't think she has to be a bitch - honesty doesn't have to mean malice. It's a tough situation because it's the other party that has to learn from this and mature, but I think there are certainly better ways to help him (and herself) with that than avoidance or bitchiness.