Is my point of view about sex and girls normal?

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Greetings everyone

I am here because I would like to hear what you guys think about me. I am 20 year old straight guy, people told me I am good looking, smart, caring, great friend and so on. Throughout elementary and high school many girls were in love with me but I never ever did anything to make a move, throughout elementary school I was afraid but through high school I just did not wanted and I was not afraid at all. My parents are also amazing and wish I was much much better with girls. I never ever had sex, I never felt the need for it, I mean, I don't have anything against it, I am not asexual, I like girls and I am not insecure at all; it is just that I am not willing to make any female friends and girlfriends, all I have is male company. I never chat with any girls, I never share pictures on social media or write posts or anything like that. I am also not a person who does not like company, I like hanging out with friends but being around girls is pain in the ass for me. I also rarely masturbate to be honest, I could go for a month without masturbating and I do not have low testosterone levels... Everyone I know from my friends is crazy about girls, when we are at a club they are all approaching girls, dancing with them, I just like to hang out with my friends and no girls around. I don't even watch girls at a club and no girl no matter how well she is dressed cannot make me horny, one time I seen a vagina on one girl when she was drunk lying on one house party and I was cold blodded, nothing special to me while my other friend went to bathroom to masturbate. I am straight guy but with my current behavior I feel like I will never be in a relationship, experience sex and get married eventually, more precise, I am sure about that! So I am writing this in order to hear what you guys and girls think, why am I like this? I never experienced any traumas or anything, I am a very complicated person and cannot change myself because I do not know the cause of the problem. I hope you understood everything haha, thank you for your answers!

Cheers!

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  • sandnigga
    7 years ago | pl

    Maybe you just expect more out of a relationship than sex.

    Which would be a good thing

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  • violetkitten96
    7 years ago

    You're the kinda guy the world needs more of :) One who is valuing other, more important things over sex :) Making the decision to put things like trust, loyalty, and even finding the right one over just having sex for fun is soooo much more important :) I'm honestly proud of you and it is, by no means, a "problem" :)

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  • erviano
    7 years ago

    Demisexuality? Hmm... Never considered to be that but now you mentioned... Well, thank you for your reply aswell! :)

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  • BlueFruitBasket
    7 years ago

    Look up demisexuality, maybe? It's where you like the person before you are able to be sexually attracted to them (in a nutshell (but do your own research))

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  • mrmoomoo223
    7 years ago

    WTF is wrong with u

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  • erviano
    7 years ago

    Thank you for your replies :), I will consider everything you said!

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  • coolboybeebles
    7 years ago

    You sound like you have low libido, and in addition you seem like you have some anxiety about hooking up with girls. What I mean is not anxiety in the form of "panic attacks" or something, but in the form of being uncomfortable around girls. Are you satisfied being single? If not, then do you have your eye on any girls? If you do and she's available, put yourself out of your comfort zone and try dating. It doesn't have to be about the sex, but the only way to grow as a person is to be taken out of your comfort zone. If you don't have a girl or girls you like, maybe you can try going to places that have girls and try befriending them. It's not dating, and so there's no pressure there, but having friends that are girls can lead to future hook ups with their friends, and you can learn a lot by having girls as friends as well.

    All this unsolicited advice aside, to more accurately answer your question: yes this is normal and not something to be too concerned with. It is simply an uncommon occurence, so you may feel like there is something wrong with you. But all it boils down to is what you want - if you like being single and want to be alone for the forseeable future, continue on this trek. If you you want to try experiencing something new, then you need to make a change regarding your actions and attitude towards meeting girls.

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  • Skate
    6 years ago

    Man, i feel bad for you. Get as much pussy as you can while you are young and attractive. At some,point your wife will not want to have sex anymore, or neither of you find the other attractive, or one or both of you can develop a health problem. Enjoy sex while you are young, and have as much as possible, but BE SAFE. Good luck.

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  • QueenOfCuteness
    6 years ago

    Yes it's normal. Your probably different than other people.

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  • erviano
    7 years ago

    That's what I am asking myself for the past years :D

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