I guess I hope that she will change. That we can work through our problems and have the fun, loving relationship we had at the start, though I'm starting to wonder if those were true feelings and not just effects of the 'honeymoon period'.
Ah, the honeymoon phases. Often makes me roll my eyes when I'm in them, to be honest. You're more optimistic and hopeful than me though. I normally very patient but there are some things I have zero patience for such as manipulation, narcissism, pretending etc. Hard to answer what I would do because I'm not in this situation, but I most definitely would have left her.
I dont think the constantly talking and regular fights are red flags. Even the distrust is understandable but there are much better/civil ways to deal with those issues than what she chooses. Have you given her a reason to not be able to trust you this severely? You did say you wronged her in the past. Did her extreme behaviors start then?
Hi again. As posted above she did find pornography in my internet history. There has been one more instance where I was chatting to a female friend on Facebook but decided to delete the messages so as to not incur my girlfriend's wrath (again, the conversation was with a long-time female friend and completely innocent), but I had no idea my gf had my old phone which just so happened to power up and begin to notify of the conversation which was then read and the deletions noted. I know this was a ridiculously stupid move if trying to build trust but I'm not stupid enough to think phones magically power on after weeks of being off.
Well there you go. Its not about how innocent it was. Its that there was a breach of trust and some people can never bounce back from that. Or take ridiculously long.
Ftr, I'm not taking her side. But I dislike executing just one person for a crime when it always takes two to tango. Anyway, like everyone said, breaking up is the only sensible decision here.
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I'm curious because you didnt mention it. What makes you stay with her in spite all that?
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I guess I hope that she will change. That we can work through our problems and have the fun, loving relationship we had at the start, though I'm starting to wonder if those were true feelings and not just effects of the 'honeymoon period'.
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Ah, the honeymoon phases. Often makes me roll my eyes when I'm in them, to be honest. You're more optimistic and hopeful than me though. I normally very patient but there are some things I have zero patience for such as manipulation, narcissism, pretending etc. Hard to answer what I would do because I'm not in this situation, but I most definitely would have left her.
I dont think the constantly talking and regular fights are red flags. Even the distrust is understandable but there are much better/civil ways to deal with those issues than what she chooses. Have you given her a reason to not be able to trust you this severely? You did say you wronged her in the past. Did her extreme behaviors start then?
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Hi again. As posted above she did find pornography in my internet history. There has been one more instance where I was chatting to a female friend on Facebook but decided to delete the messages so as to not incur my girlfriend's wrath (again, the conversation was with a long-time female friend and completely innocent), but I had no idea my gf had my old phone which just so happened to power up and begin to notify of the conversation which was then read and the deletions noted. I know this was a ridiculously stupid move if trying to build trust but I'm not stupid enough to think phones magically power on after weeks of being off.
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Well there you go. Its not about how innocent it was. Its that there was a breach of trust and some people can never bounce back from that. Or take ridiculously long.
Ftr, I'm not taking her side. But I dislike executing just one person for a crime when it always takes two to tango. Anyway, like everyone said, breaking up is the only sensible decision here.