Is my gf lying if she says she has never had an orgasm from a bf?

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even after 9 sex partners and even after her last partner was into bdsm she says she has never cummed by a guy. but she has cummed by herself a few times. she doesnt like to talk about sex or what she likes or anything sexual involving her bfs

she also said that with her past bfs she never cared about sex but with me she wants it and she doesnt understand it. i feel she is manipulating me or these are just lines because i have had 2 long term relationships while she has had 9 and she has said openly how she feels bad about the difference and wishes i had slept with more women before i met her

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  • Gspyder
    8 years ago | pl

    Some girls can only get off from clitoral stimulation so orgasming from sex is almost impossible

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  • iEatZombies_
    8 years ago | pl

    If she wasn't emotionally into the guys she was with, then yes it's very possible she didn't orgasm. If she felt like it was a chore that had to be done, she wouldn't feel a whole lot of pleasure. That's more what it sounds like. Like she was trying to like them and do what she thinks is expected, rather than what she's comfortable with. It's possible that something feels different with you is all. If she actually likes you and that's new to her, then sex with you is also going to feel like a new experience. It's seems logical to say that she hasn't had healthy relationships, nor did she understand what it was to be in one. If you make her feel comfortable, she will want to have sex with you and even cum. It's not farfetched to believe that she would be unable to orgasm if she isn't comfortable. Honestly, the fact that it took her so long to find someone that she felt good being with just means she's that much more appreciative of you being there.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago | pl

      Hi. i think your right like she says she did sex to make her exs happy but like with me she said wants it for herself. i think its because i take it slow and like dont beg for sex all the time and it confuses her. like im the shower while ago she offered me a blow and i said im good cause i was enjoying being with her im the shower more she prolly got offended. once i tried to go down on her she didnt let me and i think im startin to enjoy sex more than a blow because of it cause i know she likes that way more than blow

      she says she never been in love but she was close to it to one guy she dated for 2 years. but what about like what the guy said below "she doesnt like to talk about sex or what she likes or anything sexual involving her bfs"

      I'm no expert, but that seems like a potential issue right there.

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      • iEatZombies_
        8 years ago | pl

        She's probably still uncomfortable with the subjects. She may be ashamed of herself now that she's experiencing what normal sex is supposed to be. She's probably questioning why she ever let things happen the way they did and she has to deal with how much she abused her body by thinking it was okay for her to treat sex as a chore in the first place. She doesn't want to talk because she's afraid you'll judge her, like she's judging herself right now. The thing about having sex with someone you don't want to have sex with, even if you've been with them a while, is that it leaves a small hole in you. You don't really notice it does until somebody starts filling the hole up..... no pun intended......... then you start evaluating what you did to put it there in the first place. When you love someone after many mistakes, you think about how stupid you were to have been blind to them in the first place.

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  • 2112
    8 years ago | pl

    I've slept with many guys in my lifetime, and not once have I ever gotten an orgasm from sex.
    70% of women are physically incapable of achieving orgasm through intercourse alone.
    I can give my self an orgasm through clitoral-stimulation in less than a minute, though.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago | pl

      did you tell ur bfs that n did they try to get u off by clitoral stimulation during sex?

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      • 2112
        8 years ago | pl

        Yes, and the only man who has made me cum is my husband, who has been able to do it 3 times from clitoral stimulation. Nobody else ever has, though

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  • deepthought33
    8 years ago | pl

    There are still a lot of people who feel protective or ashamed of their sexuality out there. If you're supportive and sensitive of her she will feel safe enough to open up (maybe slowly, maybe not) to you about her sexual wants and needs.

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  • green_boogers
    8 years ago | pl

    Just being intuitive here, but it almost sounds like she is in denial of something. Sorry I can't give you more insight.

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  • Shackleford96
    8 years ago | pl

    "she doesnt like to talk about sex or what she likes or anything sexual involving her bfs"

    I'm no expert, but that seems like a potential issue right there.

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  • charli.m
    8 years ago | pl

    Why would she lie about that? And what does BDSM have to do with orgasms?

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    • RoseIsabella
      8 years ago | pl

      Precisely, I honestly find the mention of BDSM to be a turnoff.

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        8 years ago | pl

        idk she said she was in a master slave relatioship so i thought bdsm must have somehow helped her come no?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago | pl

      idk i never seen a girl who never comed from a guy

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  • vaginahouse
    8 years ago | pl

    you should get one of those dildos you strap on your chin "chindo" that way you can double the pleasure double the fun

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