Is my first girlfriend of three years right for me?

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I've been dating my first girlfriend for almost three years now. We get along most of the time and I really enjoy being with her. The problem is that all we do when we hang out is watch movies. We live in Cali and we haven't been to the beach in two years! She is extremely reluctant to try new things. I know I could have a good future with her because I do love her and she's responsible and nice. But every day, I think of how my life would be with someone more intelligent and exciting. Am I an asshole? What should I do?

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  • avalonis
    13 years ago | pl

    There can always be a better girl out there, more intelligent, beautiful, but so what? You won't LOVE that person. Love is all that matters, and all the other things like having no fun together can be fixed. Let her know exactly what you think about this and maybe she'll change. You don't need an upgrade girlfriend, you can fix up the relationship you're in already. You're setting yourself up for failure.

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  • Romanadvoratrelundar
    8 years ago | pl

    I don't think that this question is simple enough to be answered on this site.

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  • -Smallz-
    12 years ago | pl

    Its your first girlfriend. your just curious of what its like to be with a different sort of girl... but just remember a lot of people have massive regrets when they leave their first love... so be careful

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  • secrettellings
    13 years ago | pl

    now your not an ass, 3 years is A VERY long time. You did give it a try and if your doubting your relationship, maybe its time for a change:)

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    If you do not listen to yourself then yes you are being an ass. You find her inactive and subsequently uninteresting (not about intelligence, its about being interesting) to suit YOU. She may be perfectly happy in her cocoon with how things are for HER. But the two of you have some big compatibility issues for moving on in your relationship.

    I agree with the above comments, don't expect a whole lot from young, first time relationships. Do talk with her and make it clear what you are looking for. She may be able to change her behaviour. Do act on your own desires & interests. And if the 2 of you are not eventually on the same page, move on.

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  • mtnw
    13 years ago | pl

    no, you aren't an asshole.

    very few first loves last a lifetime.

    as time passes, as you have noticed, people change, and you are young and want to be out there. she wants to watch movies.

    i think you should tell her how you feel. tell her you feel like you are in a rut and that you want to do something besides watching movies. summer is comming. make plans to go to the beach, if she doesn't want to go, then go without her.

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