I just want to reiterate that I don't agree with any insults made here, whether I saw them or not. I didn't feel like I made that clear in the first comment. I don't think you meant to be offensive in your original post.
I think what may have irritated people is the fact that you made a list of attributes that supposedly point to possibly being gay. Not only does that support gay stereotypes, but to me only one of those points is actually important - what he tells you about his own sexuality. Like I said in my other comment, that's the only thing that matters. He's your friend, so trust what he tells you and don't scrutinize him behind his back with friends. And if he's lying, let him tell you the truth on his terms instead of finding out through detective work - after all, it's his sexuality. Let him deal with it at his own pace.
Maybe if you re-read the comments without including the negative judgments you'd understand that they're actually making good points. Though keep in mind that some of the more hurtful comments could have been posted after me, and there were a couple I only skimmed. I don't think you're a bad person for wondering this, but I think the question itself is immaterial and based on faulty premises. So please don't patronize, because you aren't helping your case.
Bottom line for me: he told you he's straight. There's no real reason to assume he's lying, but if he is then that means he doesn't want you to know and it isn't really your business.
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Maybe if you re-read it without the negative judgement that everyone else did, you'd have something constructive to add.
But thanks for trying. :/
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I just want to reiterate that I don't agree with any insults made here, whether I saw them or not. I didn't feel like I made that clear in the first comment. I don't think you meant to be offensive in your original post.
I think what may have irritated people is the fact that you made a list of attributes that supposedly point to possibly being gay. Not only does that support gay stereotypes, but to me only one of those points is actually important - what he tells you about his own sexuality. Like I said in my other comment, that's the only thing that matters. He's your friend, so trust what he tells you and don't scrutinize him behind his back with friends. And if he's lying, let him tell you the truth on his terms instead of finding out through detective work - after all, it's his sexuality. Let him deal with it at his own pace.
Maybe if you re-read the comments without including the negative judgments you'd understand that they're actually making good points. Though keep in mind that some of the more hurtful comments could have been posted after me, and there were a couple I only skimmed. I don't think you're a bad person for wondering this, but I think the question itself is immaterial and based on faulty premises. So please don't patronize, because you aren't helping your case.
Bottom line for me: he told you he's straight. There's no real reason to assume he's lying, but if he is then that means he doesn't want you to know and it isn't really your business.