Ok, those are totally superficial reasons to call him gay. What a person does or doesn't does not make one gay. What makes one gay, is openly admitting to oneself one is gay.
A gay relationship doesn't just include gay sex. A gay relationship is like a normal relationship. Flowers, cuddling, movies, spending time together, everything a hetero couple does. So if your ex is not actively going on dates with a guy, he's not gay.
You've probably never heard of this term, so I'll clue you in. "Metrosexual" They are straight men, that are obsessed with the stereotypical gay habits. Most get manicures, spa treatments, along with all that stuff you listed above.
It honestly sounds like your being judgmental, and more than likely because he's an ex and your doing the typical girl thing of hating him. But being nice to his face. I think the other word for it is bitch. Don't like it when people judge you? K, stop doing it to him.
"Is my ex-boyfriend gay?" - That is indeed you calling him gay. Yes, I did make up the hateful part to prove a point.
"Nice. You are doing exactly what you are accusing me of." And "But thanks for the severe judgement." - Was answered, along with the above "hate" comment with, " Don't like it when people judge you? K, stop doing it to him." The point was not to judge people lest ye yourself be judged. Who you are as a person doesn't really matter to me. Suspecting "calling" your ex gay can be construed under many different interpretations. Maybe your spiteful. Maybe your sweet but confused. Maybe your an old guy getting off on trolling. Whatever. You didn't like it when I did it to you, so hopefully the lesson has been learned.
I don't buy it. I don't think you called me a "bitch" to prove a point. I think you are making that up a convenient excuse because you realized that you were being a jerk and I called you on it.
I love him. I wonder if he is gay despite telling me he's not. I don't see anything wrong with wondering, nothing at all. He wants me back and I think that this is something that I should consider.
I made the mistake of thinking people on this site were kind, so I asked this question, a question that has been on my mind for some time.
I'm not homophobic. I have many gay and lesbian friends. They all think he's gay, so it makes me wonder if he really is. I wanted to see what people here thought.
Holy shit! I didn't realize that the ignorant comments of a few would taint the entire thread. I am so disappointed in peoples negative reactions. Where have all the good people on this site gone?
If I was being a jerk I would have to meet you. 94% of my friends are girls, and I know the power of calling one a bitch. After the first time and subsequent blood loss I had, I don't make a habit of it.
I said you were doing what a bitch does. Nice to his face but spiteful behind his back. Your contorting my answers into your little fantasy world, where you aren't the one who is making a mistake. A few years ago there was a movie about this, "Mean Girls." That of course spawned another word called "Frenemy." I do not know you well enough to make a judgement call of wether you are indeed a bitch or not. Or psychopath. Or bipolar. Or shizoid. Or normal. Or a doctor. Or a sheep. Or perhaps some sort of flightless bird like a Kiwi.
If you love him, why does it matter in the first place if he has "gay" or "feminine" tendencies? The first rule of love is accepting the person for whatever they are. If you truly love someone all of that trivial stuff doesn't matter. You'd be hard pressed to find anyone that disagrees with that.
People are animalistic and cruel. Human nature is not kind. A tip for the future - Never assume anyone is nice. Almost any history book...ever written...would agree with this.
I never said you were homophobic. So now your putting words into my mouth.
Negative reactions are what makes us grow stronger in the long run. You are at the point where you only want to see what you want to see. Hear what you want to hear. Putting this in public is opening yourself up to reactions, including negative ones. If you only wanted positive comments, you should have asked for only positive comments.
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Ok, those are totally superficial reasons to call him gay. What a person does or doesn't does not make one gay. What makes one gay, is openly admitting to oneself one is gay.
A gay relationship doesn't just include gay sex. A gay relationship is like a normal relationship. Flowers, cuddling, movies, spending time together, everything a hetero couple does. So if your ex is not actively going on dates with a guy, he's not gay.
You've probably never heard of this term, so I'll clue you in. "Metrosexual" They are straight men, that are obsessed with the stereotypical gay habits. Most get manicures, spa treatments, along with all that stuff you listed above.
It honestly sounds like your being judgmental, and more than likely because he's an ex and your doing the typical girl thing of hating him. But being nice to his face. I think the other word for it is bitch. Don't like it when people judge you? K, stop doing it to him.
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Nice. You are doing exactly what you are accusing me of.
I never called him "gay". And I don't "hate" him. I didn't state anything like this, you made it up all on your own.
I was only wondering if maybe he was and maybe I do a bad job of picking boyfriends because I go mostly for personality and ignore the other stuff.
But thanks for the severe judgement.
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"Is my ex-boyfriend gay?" - That is indeed you calling him gay. Yes, I did make up the hateful part to prove a point.
"Nice. You are doing exactly what you are accusing me of." And "But thanks for the severe judgement." - Was answered, along with the above "hate" comment with, " Don't like it when people judge you? K, stop doing it to him." The point was not to judge people lest ye yourself be judged. Who you are as a person doesn't really matter to me. Suspecting "calling" your ex gay can be construed under many different interpretations. Maybe your spiteful. Maybe your sweet but confused. Maybe your an old guy getting off on trolling. Whatever. You didn't like it when I did it to you, so hopefully the lesson has been learned.
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I don't buy it. I don't think you called me a "bitch" to prove a point. I think you are making that up a convenient excuse because you realized that you were being a jerk and I called you on it.
I love him. I wonder if he is gay despite telling me he's not. I don't see anything wrong with wondering, nothing at all. He wants me back and I think that this is something that I should consider.
I made the mistake of thinking people on this site were kind, so I asked this question, a question that has been on my mind for some time.
I'm not homophobic. I have many gay and lesbian friends. They all think he's gay, so it makes me wonder if he really is. I wanted to see what people here thought.
Holy shit! I didn't realize that the ignorant comments of a few would taint the entire thread. I am so disappointed in peoples negative reactions. Where have all the good people on this site gone?
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If I was being a jerk I would have to meet you. 94% of my friends are girls, and I know the power of calling one a bitch. After the first time and subsequent blood loss I had, I don't make a habit of it.
I said you were doing what a bitch does. Nice to his face but spiteful behind his back. Your contorting my answers into your little fantasy world, where you aren't the one who is making a mistake. A few years ago there was a movie about this, "Mean Girls." That of course spawned another word called "Frenemy." I do not know you well enough to make a judgement call of wether you are indeed a bitch or not. Or psychopath. Or bipolar. Or shizoid. Or normal. Or a doctor. Or a sheep. Or perhaps some sort of flightless bird like a Kiwi.
If you love him, why does it matter in the first place if he has "gay" or "feminine" tendencies? The first rule of love is accepting the person for whatever they are. If you truly love someone all of that trivial stuff doesn't matter. You'd be hard pressed to find anyone that disagrees with that.
People are animalistic and cruel. Human nature is not kind. A tip for the future - Never assume anyone is nice. Almost any history book...ever written...would agree with this.
I never said you were homophobic. So now your putting words into my mouth.
Negative reactions are what makes us grow stronger in the long run. You are at the point where you only want to see what you want to see. Hear what you want to hear. Putting this in public is opening yourself up to reactions, including negative ones. If you only wanted positive comments, you should have asked for only positive comments.