Your father's a chronic complainer. He sees a problem without acknowledging the bigger picture (like others having a life to live). If you were to move out/away there's a high chance you'd receive guilt tripping as your siblings likely does/has. It may not be all the time, but often.
Unfortunately it's not uncommon for adults to be set in their ways like he is. Your father seems extremely self-destructive in his behaviour if both financial struggles (like keeping the house he can't afford) and your brother moving to escape him hasn't given him the wakeup call he desperately needs.
If you wanna help him i would recommend giving him a tough ultimatum. Go to counselling and get back to working even part time, or receive no financial aid or contact. Given what details you have, you only really have a chance of helping him stop behaving so harmfully if you go the tough route on him. Hope you manage to work things out. The last thing you need is having him move in with you because you sibling wouldn't. It'd put a significant financial burden on you.
Is my dad normal?
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Your father's a chronic complainer. He sees a problem without acknowledging the bigger picture (like others having a life to live). If you were to move out/away there's a high chance you'd receive guilt tripping as your siblings likely does/has. It may not be all the time, but often.
Unfortunately it's not uncommon for adults to be set in their ways like he is. Your father seems extremely self-destructive in his behaviour if both financial struggles (like keeping the house he can't afford) and your brother moving to escape him hasn't given him the wakeup call he desperately needs.
If you wanna help him i would recommend giving him a tough ultimatum. Go to counselling and get back to working even part time, or receive no financial aid or contact. Given what details you have, you only really have a chance of helping him stop behaving so harmfully if you go the tough route on him. Hope you manage to work things out. The last thing you need is having him move in with you because you sibling wouldn't. It'd put a significant financial burden on you.