If you were able to read his mind, you might be able to know if he has suddenly realised that he's sexually attracted to men. (That's the definition of gay, not a lack of interest in women.)
Maybe he is fantasising that it's some guy sucking his dick when you do it, but you can't know that either.
Whatever the underlying reasons, the fact that your sex life now consists entirely of you sucking him off is not good at all. You deserve pleasure as well and if he truly cared about you, he'd want to give that to you. Whatever is going on in his head, the result is that his behaviour is selfish and inconsiderate.
I think you should be cautious about reading too much into his reaction to your pegging suggestion. You know the guy well and your gut feeling may well be accurate, but contrary to popular belief, not all gay guys are seriously into either giving or receiving anal penetration.
If he is attracted to men, it's possible he's fundamentally a top, and if he did have anal sex with a man, he'd always want to be the one giving it.
I think the only thing you can say with any certainty is that something has changed in his head over the last few months. You have to decide if you're willing to put up with his altered desires, his lack of interest in giving you pleasure, and his lack of communication about what's going on with him.
Frankly, unless you're certain this guy is the love of your life and there are loads of things about him that you adore outside the bedroom, then I think you'd be dumb to stick with him. Only he can sort out whatever is going on in his head. You can't force him to do that, and there's only a limited amount you can do to help him with that.
If you feel that, on balance, you're not getting what you need from the relationship, then you should recognise that you are not required to stand by him while he goes through the process of accepting there's a problem and then tries to sort it out.
Is my boyfriend gay?
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Maybe.
If you were able to read his mind, you might be able to know if he has suddenly realised that he's sexually attracted to men. (That's the definition of gay, not a lack of interest in women.)
Maybe he is fantasising that it's some guy sucking his dick when you do it, but you can't know that either.
Whatever the underlying reasons, the fact that your sex life now consists entirely of you sucking him off is not good at all. You deserve pleasure as well and if he truly cared about you, he'd want to give that to you. Whatever is going on in his head, the result is that his behaviour is selfish and inconsiderate.
I think you should be cautious about reading too much into his reaction to your pegging suggestion. You know the guy well and your gut feeling may well be accurate, but contrary to popular belief, not all gay guys are seriously into either giving or receiving anal penetration.
If he is attracted to men, it's possible he's fundamentally a top, and if he did have anal sex with a man, he'd always want to be the one giving it.
I think the only thing you can say with any certainty is that something has changed in his head over the last few months. You have to decide if you're willing to put up with his altered desires, his lack of interest in giving you pleasure, and his lack of communication about what's going on with him.
Frankly, unless you're certain this guy is the love of your life and there are loads of things about him that you adore outside the bedroom, then I think you'd be dumb to stick with him. Only he can sort out whatever is going on in his head. You can't force him to do that, and there's only a limited amount you can do to help him with that.
If you feel that, on balance, you're not getting what you need from the relationship, then you should recognise that you are not required to stand by him while he goes through the process of accepting there's a problem and then tries to sort it out.