Yes, you sound like you know what's up, girl. You must always put yourself, and your pets first. His problems are not your fault, and it's never okay for him to abuse you, and or your pets.
He's proven that he isn't husband, or father material so he's just a waste of your precious time. Guys like him aren't worth the trouble.
If he's abusing you verbally there's a good chance that it will get worse. How long has he been acting abusive?
He's been like this for years. Very quick to anger and lacks the understanding I need. Now I know I can't just hide behind my ADHD and autism and act however I want. But then he belittles me for being angry when I drop something (I go for a loud "Fuck!" directed at nothing and then I proceed with what I'm doing) or when he tells me how much he hates it when I shut down and act weird when the tension at home is too much and I explain that it's an autistic trait that I can't help. I'm not rude, I don't shout at him I just... Can't cope. I think I deserve basic understanding and respect from the one I'm with.
I don't think he'd ever hit me. Then again I've always backed away when it's tense.
I now know that seeing as he's always been super cute and affectionate the day after we've had an argument that's likely also a part of the abuse.
I don't think he knows himself what he's doing and that it's as harmful as it is. Maybe that's why it's so difficult for me to cope with it.
I ended it. I feel relieved. Now it will be a couple of anxious months before everything is out of the way. Been sleeping on friends couches. Going back today because I need to change clothes and make sure there isn't tons of moldy shit in the sink and garbage littering everywhere.
Is my boyfriend a jerk?
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Yes, you sound like you know what's up, girl. You must always put yourself, and your pets first. His problems are not your fault, and it's never okay for him to abuse you, and or your pets.
He's proven that he isn't husband, or father material so he's just a waste of your precious time. Guys like him aren't worth the trouble.
If he's abusing you verbally there's a good chance that it will get worse. How long has he been acting abusive?
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He's been like this for years. Very quick to anger and lacks the understanding I need. Now I know I can't just hide behind my ADHD and autism and act however I want. But then he belittles me for being angry when I drop something (I go for a loud "Fuck!" directed at nothing and then I proceed with what I'm doing) or when he tells me how much he hates it when I shut down and act weird when the tension at home is too much and I explain that it's an autistic trait that I can't help. I'm not rude, I don't shout at him I just... Can't cope. I think I deserve basic understanding and respect from the one I'm with.
I don't think he'd ever hit me. Then again I've always backed away when it's tense.
I now know that seeing as he's always been super cute and affectionate the day after we've had an argument that's likely also a part of the abuse.
I don't think he knows himself what he's doing and that it's as harmful as it is. Maybe that's why it's so difficult for me to cope with it.
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It's not okay for him to treat you badly.
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I ended it. I feel relieved. Now it will be a couple of anxious months before everything is out of the way. Been sleeping on friends couches. Going back today because I need to change clothes and make sure there isn't tons of moldy shit in the sink and garbage littering everywhere.
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Right on, sugar!